I don't want to make it work actually. A lot of the stuff I just put out there to see different takes on it. I know and understand what I have to do and that is to move on.
Man, I just read through all 9 pages of this. Point 1: You should seriously considering writing. Point 2: This girl is selfish and immature. The immaturity part will fade in time, but the selfishness won't. I know you two are young... I experienced something relatively similar when i was 21-22. I got cheated on and know the pain. Once you experience the pain of betrayal, you are forever changed. My advice: Cut off all ties to her. This includes changing your phone number and giving the new number out to people that you want calling you. She's been using her friends AND family as her tools to continues with her lies and deception. To me, the continuous chain of lies is an indicator of her true selfish nature. Give yourself ample time to get your head clear. Get out of town and go visit a friend or family member. Have some fun nights, but keep focused on your future. When your head is clear.... date as much as possible. By the time you have dated a good number of women, you will have a good idea of the right kind of girl for you. And when you have figured that out, I'm sure you will come to the conclusion that the right girl has different qualities than your ex.
No offense, but she sounds borderline r****ded. Her rationale is stupid, she decisions are poor and she is emotionally weak. You should actually thank her because breaking up with her will be the best thing that's happened to you.
YES! Dude... The more you talk to her, the more you're gonna discover how many lies there are. Your feelings will just keep getting hurt more and more. Stop contacting her. And her friends. And her family. Don't respond when they try to contact you. Sever it. Finalize it. And do it quickly - the more this drags out, the more your feelings will be hurt.
Trini, are you handling this as well as you are letting on? I ask because you keep going back for more (answers) and it only is getting worse and worse. Can't you see that? Each lie is growing bigger and bigger each time you talk to her. You are just making this drag out for yourself. Do not ask yourself IF you can take her back or work it out. Unless you are a glutton for emotional pain and punishment, you need to cut all ties and walk away. The sooner you do so, the sooner you can begin the healing process. Just my 2 cents.
I told you she had sex with him multiple times. I pretty much guarantee they did it every night you were gone! You would be an idiot to take her back! Move on! Chalk it up to a learning experience! Good Luck
Ok, I stopped reading on page 2. Just knowing how people are, I'm pretty sure the next 8 pages will revolve around: A) Her finally admitted that she has been sleeping with the dude. I mean, that's pretty easy to figure out man. She leaves the room with you to go talk to him, texts him in your presence, ya already busted her sneaking off to his crib, etc. It's pretty obvious that he's been knocking her off. She may lie and say it only happened a few times, but I'm pretty sure he's been hitting it damn near every time they see each other. Especially the times she has snuck off to his crib. B) You catching her in some more lies. C) Her begging for your forgiveness, or at the least bit staying in touch and trying to work it out. D) You contemplating it. It seems like you are really into her (makes sense after 7 years, plus you're so young). My advice....FIRST GET TESTED!!!! I'm assuming you may be going raw if it's been 7 years. Secondly, let her go and move on. You two are at the age where most want to get out there and date around. And honestly, do you really want to be that guy that never sowed his oats? I'm not saying be a total hore, but do you really want the only girl you have had a relationship with to be someone you met, and have been with, since early high school? I can see if it's that "What Dreams May Come" kinda love on BOTH SIDES, but she is clearly cheating on you. And she brought the dude around you and had y'all two kicking it together. That's just wicked.... It will hurt at first but you'll be ok soon. Good luck....
Yeah I am. I can't explain it but I just had to know, for it to make sense to me. Remember, it's 7 years and things were great and then boom this happens. I just wanted to know why. Things weren't making sense and I'm a pretty logical guy as you might of seen from my posts. So if it's not making sense, then there has to be more. I know what I'm getting myself into every time she says there's more. But I just had to know.
I totally understand that. I'd be the same way too. Being logical you have to figure it out before it can become closure. Just make sure you are being logical when you are talking to her and not let the emotional take over. Don't let her convince you. I'm glad you finally see it has to end. Sorry it had to happen but you will be much better for it.
This is not the first time, trini, and don't think they only did it twice. Your chick sounds like a fun date. Young, naive, innocent, and gullible when she's drunk. She just needs to learrn to keep her mouth shut or you'll be getting more details than you really want to know.
You had all the evidence. .. you just wanted to confession? Dude . . .honestly .. . with her lies growing like Pinochio's nose I have to seriously wonder if this is the 1st time Also Get with the friend. . . in person and alone Trust me. . . ole girl who was her friend who pushed you to the finish is now *Your* friend I don't know her motivation but SHE DID YOU A SOLID and keep it between ya'll some of that NEVER WILL WE TALK NEVER WILL WE TELL Also . . .I think if yuo talk to her more. . .you will find unfortunately . .this is not the 1st time in your 7 years sorry dude Rocket River
Just a point of clarification I don't mean like date her or sex her but meet with her. . she can give you all the details and more. . . trust and beleive 2 things 1. there is more to this 2. she knows what it is Rocket River
but why would he want to know more? I guess curiousity takes over, but he is just going to feel worse and worse when he hears what else is going on. He knows that she is a trashy-lying-dumb-skank...and that's all he needs to know.
