That's what my friends are for.... and my siblings, cousins, etc. I don't imagine I'll be in a world where I don't know anybody or that my sister, cousins, etc. will suddenly stop loving me because I chose not to get married. Plus I imagine I'll be dating girls in this world for as long as they want me... In fact I'm dating a girl right now - just hit the 1-year anniversary. I've made it perfectly clear to her I never intend for us to move in together, get married, have kids, etc. I told her if she's looking for that - we need to break up. As of right now, she's not... so we're together. When that changes on her part - we'll break up. I've been a "lone wolf type" my whole life. Now that I'm 30 - I don't see that changing. And I'm very happy with that...
I'm sorry that the idea of living alone scares the hell out of you, but we're not all wired the same. I need no re-evaluation. I do not want to get married. I do not want to rot away with the same woman, day after day, year after year...and I DO NOT want children, ever. Never have, never will. I don't get bored being single as I have plenty to keep me busy. I had the absolute perfect woman. I loved her will all of my heart, but unlike you, I'm scared to death of marriage so I broke it off when the nagging started about marriage. Do I miss her? At times, hell yes. Am I upset about my decision? Not at all. I wish her the best and hope she finds a deserving mate. I love my job, I love my single life, I love doing things my way and I enjoy spoiling my selfish self with my money. Besides, I drink too much and commit too many sins to become a priest...and the fact that I believe Christianity is nothing but a cult/safety net for the insecure, that probably wouldn't work for me either.
....I was single for about a year, finally got me someone to waste time with again. although this video is fing depressing.
The video isn't depressing. It is what a LOT of relationships are like. Hence why I'm divorced. If you are getting into a relationship to avoid being lonely, expect this to happen. As for me? I'm waiting for the RIGHT one. Whether that takes 1 year or 20 is a non-issue to me.
Brilliant satire actually, though it gets pretty depressing by the end. Marriage and family, of course, doesn't have to be that boring and meaningless. The video is showing that people don't do it out of love, but because they think it's time and want to have something to brag to their friends about. When I was married, I tried to make it work and really did hope that we were soulmates and life partners. I realize I was not seeing us in a realistic way. I did want all the wedding attention stuff, and to do the "right" things at the "right" time in my life, etc. Now that I find myself moving slowly toward trying the commitment thing again (eeek) and hoping this time I'll be able to stick with it, I'm trying not to do it for the wrong reasons. I don't want all that bridal attention stuff, wish we could just run off to Vegas and get it over with, and don't want to have a house or kids for "showing off" reasons. I do think family is important, being with someone you can mutually love is important, and I do want children. I do think, like Hayesfan said, I don't want to end up alone (though I respect the decisions of those who want to stay single - it's not for everyone) and I do feel like at my age, "I'd better do it while I have a chance", but I try not to have that drive my decisions. I don't feel like the family life is dull and depressing. Instead of just having something to brag about to the neighbors, I want life to be about taking care of and building strong relationships with those close to me. This means looking out for my family, and my friends which I also consider my family. Otherwise, I pursue excellence in my music, taking care of the students that I teach, and exploring the interesting things to learn about in this world while I have the chance. I look forward to teaching kids to do the same things. Dogs don't make as good a companion - they're furry and cute, but they can't truly share thoughts and ideas with you. They shouldn't replace people. My boyfriend (actually I guess it's "fiance" now ) feels the same way about life and what's important. We also have strong beliefs and a good spiritual life, and I don't think our life will be as pointless as in that video.
That was depressing. As much as I hate to admit fellas, the movie the Notebook made me think about relationships. <object width="425" height="355"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/S3G3fILPQAU&hl=en"></param><param name="wmode" value="transparent"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/S3G3fILPQAU&hl=en" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="355"></embed></object> IMO, I believe that marriage is one of the most important decisions I have to make in life. I want to be with someone that I love being in love with until I'm old and gray. Someone who makes me laugh and loves me unconditionally. Someone who I can connect with physically, emotionally, and spiritually. True, it's hard to find, but like Fatty I'm willing to wait for the RIGHT one.
If being single for the rest of your time is your thing...more power to you. Many of us are HAPPILY married and it's not because society told us to do so. With out my wife, I wouldn't have my son. Without either of them, I don't know where I'd be, but I do know I wouldn't be nearly as happy as I am.
I thought it was funny. My buddy's marriage is a lot like this. However, being in Houston, please replace "basement" with "garage".
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I refuse to let that happen. Im 22. I mean...I don't want to settle. I don't want to settle for just anyone. I want to find the right one who makes me better. That's the idea right? That's how it's supposed to be? I want my kids to be complete badasses. I really need to know this, and I want people to be as honest as they can be: Should I be banging more chicks? A lot of people tell me that they thought like me, and didn't at the time. Now they regret it. I feel like my life is running out. I graduate college in 1 month almost.
Date as many chicks as you can. Bang as many as you can. The best way to never settle? By knowing that you have options.
A lot of people in this thread are missing one possible option - finding the right woman, settling down, and NOT having kids. I'm 10 years in and wouldn't trade it for the world. I would trade in my carpet with the various dog stains in it for something else though.
Yes! As an unmarried guy in my late 30's I can relate to a lot of the comments in this thread. I think the main thing is not to generalize, some people want to get married and some don't and I don't think we should be judging people on what decision they make. At the same time I don't think we should be open to either way towards marriage. I think it is easy when you are in your 20's or early 30's as a male to decide that you don't want to get married. Its nice enjoying your freedom but as you get older you might find that things change and there does come a point when you decide if the bachelor's life is what you want when you're 40 or 50. On the other hand there are a lot of people, both men and women, who seem to get married because that is what they think is expected of them or they don't think about it longterm, they are just interested in a fancy wedding or don't like the thought of being alone. I've seen a few couples end up in nasty divorces or being very unhappy because they felt desperate about getting married. To me a life where you feel trapped with someone who is making you miserable is far worse than being alone. Marriage like everything else in life is different for everyone and I think is a decision that shouldn't be made just on what your family, society or your biological clock demands of your or on the other side how much fun you are having at present moment.
I can't believe some of you guys here saying how you wouldn't want to have kids. In my opinion, reproducing is our utter most prominant animalistic instinct. Settling down with one woman for the rest of your life might be a bit scary, but not having kids ?!!!! Personaly I am looking forward to the having kids part. But I'm not sure about how I could live with only 1 (right) woman my whole life. Unfortunately, due to today's society and cultural acceptance, you have to marry someone inorder to have kids.
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