OH CRAP Time is running out. I'm already 23. Some say life is all down hill after college .... I wanna cry now
Same boat here. I'm 34, have broken off numerous relationships as I have ZERO desire for kids or marriage itself. I'm fine single and plan to die without a wife. I can thank this to two very bad relationships and my extreme love of the single, do whatever I want when I want, life. I love it. I love my 2 seat sports car. I love buying clothes, electronics, make car go faster things instead of diapers and formula. I love hanging out all night drinking beers and watching sports. I love the occasional new tang that I will not call the next day. It's grand.
Exactly. Some of the guys in this thread are overthinking it. Live your life and don't worry about such things. Date the women you want and figure it out go from there. Don't have "that feeling" when you are dating her? Don't marry her? It's not hard. There are no set standards saying who you should marry. Choose who you want and never enter into a marriage that you don't want. You'll be miserable. I'm 22 and think about marriage, kids, etc. but I'll know when the time is right and it's not now. Heh
Wow I dont think I have ever felt as lucky as I do today. I dont feel bad for single people, I feel bad for married people who live that life parodied in that vid, and the ones that honestly believe that is how it really is. /me goes off to kiss the saintly woman who puts up with my crap day after day.
It's shocking how hopeless and helpless some of you seem to feel-- based on your remarks here. It doesn't matter to me whether or not you get married or have children but to let other people's experience with it or your past failed romances make you prone to flat-out declining the possibility is kind of sad. Why rule anything out at this point?
I feel bad for people who think another person will make them whole or complete. I always found that concept of "completing" someone else to be absurd. I think girls tend to have this notion hard wired more than guys do. I honestly would be happy without a family or kids. As long as I had good friends and a dog, I would be doing just fine.
People find solace in companionship... maybe your dogs and friends complete you. I don't think its as much as someone "completing" you... its more that somebody is a compliment to you and what enriches your overall life experience. I think love is the most beautiful thing on the planet. Once you get a taste its very powerful. It can make you do foolish things. It will bring you down like nothing else. It brings out your best and your worst. Its a gamble. A risk. Some people can't handle the game. I consider myself lucky I waited until I found someone too good to pass up... then I went all in. Best decision of my life. Its all about the pursuit of happiness in reality... if you find yourself comfortable being single than go for it. I had no interest in ever being married when I was 18-19, I had big plans and dreams and no time for all that. Sometimes your priorities change when you get a glimpse of what having that feels like. It did for me anyway. Just live life to the fullest.
That's true. Never will you have as much time and freedom again as you did in college. The older you get, the less time you have and the more bills you have. And the more consequences for your actions you have.... Life kinda sucks.
Okay I could only make it half way through that video. [begin rant] The guy is obviously bitter. If you marry a woman like that, you deserve a woman like that. There are way too many interesting people in the world that are still single to live your life with someone who has no desire to be more than they are. You guys that say you have no interest in finding someone to live your life with need to re-evaluate... or become a priest. The idea of living my life alone scares the hell out of me. I don't want to be 85 years old, depending on my nieces and nephews to take care of me because I have no family of my own. Friends are nice, but someone you care about who will stick with you through good and bad times is irreplaceable. Just because you see that other people can't find happiness, doesn't mean you have to convince yourself that you will be better off alone for the rest of your life. Be true to what you really want. If you really want meaningless one night stands until you are 55 years old, then good luck with that, personally it sounds shallow and very unfun to me. [/rant]
You guys need to lighten up. Not all women are like that, not by a long shot. It seems to me the guys who end up with girls like this are the guys that pursue these types of girls. One of my guy friends is all about the blonde bombshells, but he's a total dork! I mean, it's a total mismatch most of the time. I'm not saying he should settle for someone who he finds unattractive, but there is a happy medium. He doesn't ever seem to have fulfilling relationships.
Why? What makes you right and me (as someone who has no interest in finding someone to live my life with) wrong? It's comments like this from my friends and family that really piss me off.
Read the rest of what I said... I don't think its wrong I think you are saying it for the wrong reasons. Hence.. re-evaluate. Do you really want to be old and gray sitting on a front porch somewhere with no one to call, no one to talk to, no family left that really care about you?
