I don't want to lose weight...does that make me a bad person.

Major Malcontent;

I've followed your posts about weight and particularly about how judgmental people can be about weight. I agree you are not a bad person for not caring about your weight. There are much more important things that define a person, like how they treat other people, than weight.

What I think you should care about is your overall health. Exercise and eating right shouldn't be about appearance but about how healthy it makes you and how better it makes you feel overall.

 

No, you are not a bad person. If you have a lot of money.

 

Sorry, Australian's use the metric system...

I went from 300lbs down to 211lbs and then down to 190lbs...

 

Holy ****. I'm begging you to lose some weight now just so the dumb debates can end in this thread! ****! Just walk around the block for the rest of us!

 

Does it matter if some people think you're bad? This is an entire crowd most of which has never experienced exactly what you've experienced, so the majority of them are far worse judges of the variables than you or a professional.

There are many people, who do not understand your situation and are not professionals, that will form an opinion based on varying levels of research and their own personal experiences. If some of those people think all sorts of bad things about you, is it justified? Should you take their "assessment" seriously?

Focus on what's most important. Disregarding your weight does not mean you are disregarding your health, rather it means that you are ignoring one specific gauge for health. Disregarding your body fat also falls into that category. That's entirely your own choice, and it seems clear from your posts that you understand the costs and benefits of the lifestyle.

Having said that, my own advice is: I hope you have also considered the effects of poor health on the mind, as much as the body.

 

If it was easy to lose weight, everyone would do it. Yet very few people can. Those that try have to deal with conflicting advice from others who may or may not have similar body types or experiences, many of whom can't lose weight themselves.

I've lost 100 pounds. I'm trying to lose 100 more. The only way that I'm able to even try is because I want it BAD, and I think I've figured out what will work for me. And I'm not lazy, no matter what anyone thinks.

If you want to lose weight, you need to reduce your calories and increase your activity level. In the end, it really is that simple. Don't get lost in the details about this. There are different theories on the most efficient way to accomplish this, but there are no shortcuts. You got fat by eating more calories than your body could burn off. The only way to correct this result is to burn more calories than you eat. Accept this and move on.

When you decide to lose weight, I suggest focusing on exercise first. Get yourself into a workout routine and then start watching what you eat. Your body will fight you the whole way. You'll have to make gradual changes or your body will force you to stop. And you've got to want it.

A smoker can't quit if they don't to, an alcoholic can't quit if they haven't hit bottom. Losing weight is the absolute hardest physical change an obese person can make. Very few are able to lose weight and keep it off. In order to succeed, you have to want it first.

 

What he said. You're certainly not a bad person for not losing weigh/working out, but I'm 100% certain you'd feel much better if you did.

On a related note, I work out six days a week and a lot of the dopes that I work out with are major dbags.
Being in shape != being a good person.

 

I weigh 95 kg now. About 210 lbs. It's a bit unevenly distributed, though, probably about 50 % of that weight are brains and balls. Does that make me a bad person?

To the OP, I like your posts. I do think you do want to lose weight, otherwise you would not bring it up quite so often. Obviously, your weight has nothing to do with whether you are a good or bad person. But it would probably be better for your health (and maybe also your confidence) if you lost some weight.

 

Does it make you a bad person? No. Does it make you a typical American, fat and lazy, yes.

 

I agree. Being in martial arts I encounter D-bags all the time who are in great shape and I am sure most of us are familiar with the Affliction wearing Situation wannabe types who have perfect abs. Our culture makes all sorts of judgements about people because of their weight, which is ironic because obesity is at epidemic levels. What I've always said though is that losing weight shouldn't be about demonizing fat people but about focusing on overall health.

Someone with a BMI of 30 could still be in great shape and someone with a BMI of 20 could be in terrible shape. Weight control is good but it is only one part of overall health.

 

I'm no expert or anything but I think exercise is more important than eating good.

I eat like crap but I stopped drinking soda and don't overeat. But I exercise hard at least 5 times a week. I'm about 6'4 210. I'm about 5lbs overweight according to the BMI calculator . I've lost about 20 lbs this year and my diet hasn't changed at all other than cutting sodas and my energy drink habit.

Would I be in better shape if I ate good food probably but I think it's all moot if I didn't exercise to go with it. That's where I think it starts...

And once you get in a habit of going to the gym it becomes easier and becomes fun. Heck I put on my headphones hit the treadmill and watch TV if I was at home I'd just be watching TV so really no excuses..

 

How old are you? Age have a lot to do with your weight. When I was in college I could easily eat tons and keep my weight at 155. I eat a lot less now but my weight is between 190-200 (was at 200-210 for a couple years). I just want to get to 185 and keep it there (6')

 

Changing a few things in your diet could have some pretty significant effects. You said you eat the same as your brother, but if you feel comfortable doing so, list out what you eat and drink in a typical day including the portions.

 

Spoiler

 

I won't make any assumptions to your diet, but I've had overweight friends have weight drop from them by cutting out sodas and starting with light running.

 

If you eat 1200 calories a day it is unlikely you will put on weight. An 80 year old 120 lbs person uses 1100 calories. Your body expends a certain amount of energy pumping blood and keeping you organs working and that takes energy. Some people's bodies might be more efficient or less efficient, but it takes a set amount of energy to keep you alive and if you eat less than that you won't put on weight as it is not possible thermodynamically. Your body will try to lower its energy requirements as you diet, but the body can not magically create energy it has to use what it has.

If you don't have the will power that is a different, but people saying calories don't matter are wrong from a pure energy perspective.

 

Losing weight and changing habits are entirely different things.

Losing weight is about determination/will-power, changing habits is about self-respect and knowledge. The former is a lot easier to gain, but also much easier to lose.

You probably should focus on small steps, instead of going balls-to-the-wall on your weight loss goals. If you can make it priority #3 or #4 and stick with it a longer time, your success will be far more rewarding and lasting.

If it is knowledge you lack, there's tons of easy advice out there. Cut back on empty carbs and starch (bread, sugar, etc), try to prepare your meals ahead of time, be mindful of portion sizes, time your meals so that you're never hungry and always on schedule, get 30 minutes of physical activity a day (make this a non-negotiable item), eat "living" food as much as you can, avoid the center of the grocery store, never eat before bed, etc.

If it's the self-respect part you lack, then it may be time to see a professional and start on some serious introspection. You have to want to live healthy for the right reasons. Once you refuse to allow yourself the disservice of being unhealthy, it's only a matter of time before your habits completely change and your quality of life will improve. At that point, you've basically won the battle for good.

Best of luck, you can (and should) do it.

 

I think the only person that it should matter to is you and your significant other.

 

LOLOLOL :grin:

 

i'm 125 lbs and 1200 calories a day is kinda low for me.

a ~1400 BMR, plus a strenuous daily workout add up to eating more like 1500 or 1600/day.

i can't imagine a full sized man subsisting on 1200 calories?