Stop drinking and don't drink "to get drunk", man. It breaks my hea-ah-ah-ah, ah-ah-ah, ah-ah-ah, ah-ah, ah-aaAAaaaarrrttt...
Its ok to cry sometimes, we dont always know why we are sad but crying can help you feel better. I agree with the ppl saying to stop drinking for a while. And maybe talk to someone (in person) about it. Do something new, go on a date, something that will lift your spirits. Go to church even. You may be depressed and need to see a psychiatrist, but that should be your last resort. They are too quick to prescribe a happy pill, when the majority of ppl dont really need it.
IMO OP, it all depends in what environment your drinking. If your out with friends partying and you drink and can't get drunk (and have a good time), then yeah it seems weird. However, totally understandable to feel depressed and sad if you drinking alone in your room listening to blues.
Get new friends. Ones who care about being healthy, successful and making money. These people wont drink much
I had a very similar problem. I was a binge drinker and I too was drinking for the wrong reasons: to try to kill emotions rather than face them. But the emotions were only very temporarily forgotten and later in the night I became increasingly depressed and even bitter or angry (see: D&D, ca. most late nights for the last ten years or so). Since entering therapy for the first time in my life (three years ago) and quitting drinking at about the same time, I have come to understand that my self-medication (booze and drugs) were very temporarily treating symptoms but not the underlying problems. It was like taking cough medicine for lung cancer. Therapy is not easy either. Feeling your feelings, especially unpleasant ones obviously, is not easy. It is damn hard and damn painful. But it is the only road to managing depression. And if you are depressed I hope you'll hear me when I tell you this: Not a single drink will make your problems better. And every single drink will make them worse. When you've been drinking hard for such heavy reasons that is an almost impossible thing to accept, but I am here to tell you that it is absolutely and incontrovertibly true.
No, they won't be. But if making money is among their top three concerns, they're likely to be bigger assholes than the ones driving him to drink.
One last thing: If you are (or might be) clinically depressed, the worst thing you could do for yourself would be to take advice from someone that has not experienced clinical depression. Mostly their intentions are 100% good, but they are literally incapable of giving you good advice because they are literally incapable of understanding. A professional, studied and degreed and licensed in psychiatry or analysis, is an obvious exception. But if you are taking advice from people that get 'bummed out' sometimes as to how to cheer up, well... No offense to those people because their intentions are good and they think they're talking about the same thing you are but they absolutely are not. Normal people don't try to "get drunk" or become concerned when they fail to "get drunk." Most people drink to loosen up; not to get wasted. (I mean, unless you're living in a frat house or it's St. Patrick's Day or something.) Most people are not trying to erase their minds of painful feelings they'd rather not feel. They are incapable of giving you good advice. I've been there and I too am incapable of giving you good advice except for this: Seek medical attention as soon as you possibly can. Don't put it off a week, a day, or an hour. You are suffering, your suffering is worsening, and you are preventing yourself from healing. Seek medical attention.
You don't like money makers? Those of us who make the economy go round? You think everyone should be broke, struggling, artists/theater type people?
First of all, I run a small business and I've run two successful ones over the course of 15 years. I am an artist but I am not a struggling artist and I don't want anyone to struggle. And I'm not against making money; I have to raise more than 400K of it annually so of course I am appreciative of moneyed people -- I rely upon them (as they do on me). Second, do you think the arts don't aid in making the economy go round? If you're under that impression you should do a google search or something. Multiple studies have shown that the arts contribute to quality of life, to making the city more palatable to people that might move here and contribute to our local economy, to tourism, to creating destination spots around which industry (restaurants, bars, etc) can thrive, and for bragging rights as well. I think it was Forbes that recently named Houston America's Coolest City and they cited as a primary factor our theatre scene. I resent that artists and arts organizations have to justify their existence by demonstrating the positive impact they have on the economy. But the data does show that the arts do exactly that. I wrote what I wrote because I do indeed think that the pursuit of wealth is a shallow top-three concern. This obviously offends you. Sorry about that.
