How to move on?

take it one day at a time and do not call her.. even if you're dying.. well only if you're dying.. but don't call her!!

 

It's ok to use that hate and burn it like fuel to get through what you gotta get through, but don't dwell on it. Hate in your heart will only make you bitter.

 

That's a tough situation to deal with. I wouldn't know what to tell you since I have never been in that type of position. But, dude, you should have manned up a long time ago.

You said you guys broke up atleast a dozen times before this in seven years. The signs were out there, on and off relationships like that NEVER work out. I personally think you made the situation worse for yourself then it should have been.

Honestly you should have chunked deuce sometime between the 3rd and 12th time she broke it off.

 

work abroad. that's what i'd like to do.

 

bladeage my man,

I haven't read the whole thread, but in time you'll be fine (if you aren't already). It's just going to take time and you'll be able to easily move on. Go out with your boys to the club or bar and talk to some new girls. You'll meet another girl and this one will be a distant memory.

 

This is really on point.

I figured out that every other chick that I dated after her treated me much better and were better in bed lol. You are holding yourself back and you just don't know it.You are young go have fun, and try to work on yourself in the process.When you start seeking what women really like and try to broaden your horizons, then you will become a hot commodity to any chick that you decie to even spend a little time with.

 

I don't know if you realize this, but this was probably the reason you guys broke up..

1.You didn't communicate
2.She didn't communicate
3.Some one else came in the picture who told her what she wanted to hear.
4.Everything else you said after was a waste of time.
5.Then came the continuous drama.


It's hard to fix a relationship when your mind is on somebody else.This alone should help you move on knowing she probably had this guy waiting in the wings to begin with.

 

I guess I missed this thread or confused it with another.

Sorry you went through such a rough time. I think there will still be times when it is rough. Those times will be fewer and farther between. But it will be a long time before it's completely gone.

The best thing you can do, is to learn from what you didn't like about that relationship and improve it in your next one. You can take things that you know now you could have done better.

Once the next relationship starts just work on those things. It's a rough game, and a lot of learning is required.

Best of luck.

 

There is some truth to this and it sucks. Although it doesn't make any logical sense, women aren't logical creatures. The one thing, as a man, that you have to understand is that "Attraction isn't a choice". And when I say attraction, I don't necissarily mean physical attraction. Women don't choose who they are attracted to, or who gives them a spark. It is a very powerful evolutionary system inside of a woman. It is not a choice.

How many times have you heard, when trying to set a woman up with someone or when a woman is telling their friends that they aren't interested in someone, they always say "he's such a nice guy... BUT... " Being nice is great, and its a good trait to have in general, but not necissarily the greatest thing to be if you want to attract a woman. Does that mean you need to be a jerk? No. But it does mean you need to be a MAN, stand up for what you believe in, say no to what she wants every once in awhile, and most importantly don't be a needy wuss type guy. That is not attractive to a woman. If that type of behavior were attractive to a woman, well, then the woman would be attracted to WOMEN, not men.

Some women are more logical than others and will stay with an overly nice guy because they tell themselves that this guy is good for them. But there is no spark, not much attraction, and you end up with more of a "friends" type relationship (and thus are more prone to cheat). The worst thing you can do with a woman you are interested in, or with, is not create some sort of spark for them. This post is getting too long, but I read and study this type of material all the time so I'm full of useless info (or is it useless?) when it comes to this. If you want to be more successful with women, I suggest you read some of David DeAngelo's stuff. The stuff works - even though sometimes it doesn't make much logical sense at all - it works.

 

i agree with what your saying especially the first paragraph. but i read this about one of his books haah

The Art of Mackin' was the first how-to book that taught men how to actually become

a true ladie's man , and how to use certain techniques (not deceit) in order to get what they wanted from women.

Whether it is sex, money or companionship, this book teaches men what to say, verbatim, in order to reach their intended goal.

By using these techniques, I am not implying that you do anything negative. I am just teaching guys to stay on top of their game when dealing with women.

The Art of Mackin' is also the first book that tells men what to say, word for word, in order to get sex from women, guaranteed.

By using my tried and proven methods of mackin', men are guaranteed to increase their player ratio by at least fifty percent

Funny stuff

 

Who cares? Shes probably is ATTRACTED to this new guy. She's probably having fun with him, having non-boring sex, she's out of the 7 year routine, the guy probably doesn't bend over backwards for her. You have to understand bro, this is a FEMALE we are talking about. Not a man like you and I, not a logical species, we are talking about a species that acts on emotions. We are talking about an entity that watches, chic flicks, lifetime channel, and desperate housewifes. We are talking about a WOMAN. ( I feel like Iverson right now, practice!). Life is short man, don't be mad at her for getting out of something she wasn't happy with. You would have done the same if the shoe was on the other foot, right? At least I hope you would.

Please don't take that post above as me being an ass, I'm just trying to be real with you and help you out. You love her, love causes blindness, I get that. I'VE BEEN THERE. I'm trying to open your eyes to see whats really going on. Don't hate her, she doesn't sound like a bad person, she is just doing what makes sense to her - and because it doesn't make sense to you.... well you get the idea man.

 

Yeah he has some material or pick up artist type crap for the guys who want to go out and womanize... but his good stuff like "double your dating" is for us normal guys in the dating/relationship world who want to learn how to GET and KEEP their woman around. The latter is the material I'm talking about.

 

This is very true. However, you will find that if you get married or have been in a long-term relationship, that the woman will complain to you about how you never "share your feelings" and you will think to yourself, "I didn't think girls liked guys who were all emo and stuff and now she wants me to share my feelings, wtf?"

 

Well, there is a difference between sharing your feelings and being a total wuss. You can be a man and still have open communications about your feelings and as a matter of fact, its important to share your feelings, don't bottle them up. And this brings up another point, just because she is complaining that you "don't share your feelings", why do you feel the need to comply to that complaint? That's borderline wuss behavior - giving in and trying to "fix" the things she complains about. Sometimes, or most of the time, those complaints are just tests.

 

Becoming an alcoholic over something like this is probably the dumbest thing that you could do. Time to move on and stop feeling sorry for your self. You didn't even live with her, STFU already and quit being a baby.

 

Losing someone you love is always tough, but I agree and he should be handling this totally opposite. Get into the gym, start eating healthy, clean himself up, become more of a man, and show her "ha-ha look what you missed out on". If he did that, I'd bet money she'd come crawling back, but if he continues to drink and feel sorry for himself and send her text messages "i love u" "i miss you" "wanna hang out sometime?" "call me if you need anything" - She'll run farther and farther away.