How do you ever expect to get over her when you continue to stay in regular contact with her?!?! In order to put her behind you, you must first put her behind you.
i did the same 7 year on and off relationship and i finished it off at 25 so i know the feeling. best thing to do is cut off all ties! i wanted the thing over with so it was easier to do. and it's the best feeling to not pick up the phone when they call and if they leave a vmail, just delete it. then a few mths later, i started dating another guy and we're married now. you'll never really forget the memories since that was part of your life at one point but remember to learn from your lessons of each relationship. like you said you were possibly not motivated. try to be more for you and for your next partner. i was not a good communicator and i held my emotions in so i make a point to talk and communicate now. you'll be over it in no time and you'll look back and say "what was i ever thinking?" it gets easier by the day. go to the gym, read more, hang out with old friends, etc...that'll be good for you. good luck!
like someone said, you have to cut off all contact. you're not gonna get over her if you still talk to her.
Why is everyone telling me to cut off all contact? I never said I still talk to her. I haven't had any type of contact with her since the day we broke up. Not sure if I gave that impression with my initial post. But no, I haven't talked to her at all. And I decided to not talk to her at all because I really do want to move on.
1. I hate relationship threads. 2. Time heals all. 3. High School relationships NEVER work in the long run. "There are plenty of other fish in the sea." Consider the amount of people on this planet. And you want to be with the person you met in high school?
Fark it mate. I just ended my marriage after 4 years and 7 years all up together. I am now 25 and still have my life in front of me - and yeah its hard on both of us - but I have to concur with the majority... Get your boys together. Hit some clubs. Hit the drinks. Hit the girls!!!! Try and do as I am and not be tempted to fall in love with one of these girls. You need to have a stack of 'one and dones'. Prove that you still have the mojo. Then when the time is right - BAM - we will find the right girl for us....we'll know because we wont be breaking up every few months only to get back together...screw that ****. No clingy girls man, it will be that laid back, easy going girl that doesnt give a damn if we want to go out with the boys, and she finds it equally as important to get with her girls. Bladeage - the future is bright for you and me my brother
Dude.... you said... Well, if you two broke up, and stopped contacting each other, you'd stay broken up and move on. The fact that you've broken up "at least a dozen times" indicates that you guys break up, stay in contact with each other, then get back together, then repeat.
Man, all you gotta do is find a girl that looks just like her, nail her, and then dump her, man. Get her of your mind.
You were with her for 7 years? WOW! That is impressive. The longest I've been with someone was 5 months. Be more like me and fall for another girl fast. Yeah that's the key. You've gotta be a love wh*re. Just fall in love with just about any girl that smiles at you or has eye contact. On second thought, don't be like me, as I'm going through a crisis momentarily.
So yesterday I find out that she is talking to another guy now. By the information I received it seems to be a booty buddy. So I didn't really know how to take it. Bad because the worst thing that could happen is happening, or good because finally I can just move the hell on without anything holding me back. It is really hard at work though, sometimes I can't stay busy enough to keep my mind from wandering off. I hated her for a little while, but now I am just starting to realize it was for the best. I still care about her, but it hurts to care. I would rather much hate her, but I can't really do that anymore. Life is too short to hate, and I just seem to keep the memories close. My friends have been there for me. But they aren't there 24/7 of course and being lonely is the worst. I started drinking...only on weekends, but I never drank before. I love it, it numbs me completely. I know when I wake up in the morning the pain will be back but it is nice to be able to make it go away for a just a few hours. I chug the alcohol though, 4 coronas 5 shots of patron in less than 15 minutes. I was out! I can't wait to do it again this weekend. I just wish there was something else to turn to besides alcohol.
