Great... then we end up with a society of slackers, deadbeats, losers, and generally pathetic people.
That's good stuff, droxford. I sauntered through my early adulthood, got married young, got tied down away from home (Texas). By 36 I was divorced. My greatest regret is living my entire adult life 1200 miles away from my parents. They rarely got/get to see their grandchildren by me or me for that matter. My dad died in June of 2001. My mom just turned 80 and she is lonely much of the time. When you get married, you turn over a lot of control over your decisions to someone else, so you'd better be in the place that you really want to be. I love it here, but my contentment is stained with this one great regret over geographic separation that I know has saddened my family-- my mother in particular.
No answer for that simple unless you begin to use drugs. Then it's the beginning one problem from another. My advice is to open up new options and let them preoccupy your mind enough to sweep away the painful memories. You will always have options if you look for them.
That's anywhere from 16 to 30 hours of sleep... Last time I counted, there weren't more than 24 hours in a day... Easiest way to stop thinking somber thoughts - don't let your mind settle on them. Like Isabel said - get up, get out, be productive, or at least, do something!
I found these two quotes appropriate to this thread: "When we are foolish, we want to conquer the world. When we are wise, we want to conquer ourselves." "Hard work is the accumulation of the easy things you didn't do when you should have."
It is theoretically impossible to do what you are asking. You along with everyone else are screwed. As the kids would say, "Deal with it."
depressed today? I just wish I knew how to get my life to a point where things were working out... sometimes everything about the secure life you had seems to blow up in your face, and it's OK because you didn't really like it that much anyway, and you know you needed something to make you move on... but where? It just seems like various things, people, etc. always seem to be the answer but then disappear as quickly as they appear. Like getting your chain pulled or something. It's enough to make you wonder if you will ever succeed...
I just think life sucks when u end a relationship and u really don't know how to go on.. u want to forget about her but u know so many things just hurts, like all the good memories,her smell and al that and youre also afraid about the future.. for exemple that uyoure not gonna find somebody again etc.. I think things like that are very painfull proberly one of the worse feelings u can have... just my opinion
The only thing that's going to help you with that is time... sad, but true. Hang out with friends - the more you hang out by yourself, the more it's going to hurt.
It could be worse. You could be going through all of those things and then a couple of weeks later she calls you up and tells you that she's pregnant. That's the scenario I am having to grapple with right now.
I've been there, although it was a very, very long time ago. You will move past where you are. Trust me. It doesn't feel like it, and it might not feel like it for a long time... and time, now, will seem to stretch out into infinity. A week can seem like a year, because you aren't with her. It'll pass. It may not feel like it now, but it'll pass. You could try putting your feelings into poetry, or a short story about a guy in your position. It could help. Good luck.
I'll tell you how to go on after you end a relationship: What your'e feeling: Worthless. Meaningless. You poured your heart into something and now it's gone. You have an excess of love built up for someone who is no longer your romantic interest. You don't really want to go on, but don't really want to kill yourself either. You're trapped in a state of pain. Is there any hope?: The good news: Yes, there's hope. You will be back in the saddle again one day. The bad news (part 1): It's going to take years (literally) for you to be able to move on. The bad news (part 2): Though you will be able to find happiness later in life, the pain that you feel now will never go away. It's a permanent scar. How to move on: Step 1: Focus on the simple things in life. Left foot... right foot. Keep walking. Eat. Sleep. Work. Do it again. Don't try to feel - it will just bring pain. Save that for later. Try to empty your mind of serious thoughts (they'll usually deviate to pain again). Don't try to heal yourself. Just try to stop thinking and feeling things. Empty yourself of feelings for now. Purge them. Step 2: When you are finally able to snap out of your pain coma, do some fun things for yourself. Go rock climbing.. or bowling.... biking, pool shooting.. find something that interests you (outside of your home - you need to get out more). Focusing on your work and career also helps. Step 3: Wait. Be patient. A broken heart takes a long time to heal (a lot longer than a broken leg). -- droxford
very good posts,specially droxfords.. that helps alot so theess kinds of things happens to everybody,right?
In Buddhism all things are impermanent. Everything ends money, love, glory, and life but so does hate, pain and suffering. The most you can do is accept things and be content with the hear and now rather than be depressed about it or overly excited about it.
No. Not to everybody. It's somewhat common among men who are very caring, sensitive, loving, dedicated and romantic. It's very hard for a guy like that to find a really great girl who won't $hit on him (especially one that's hot). Strangely, I have NEVER heard of a woman going through this. That doesn't mean it hasn't happened - but I've never heard of it. oh - and hey... one other suggestion: stay sober. You may have friends that will tell you to party and get drunk (i.e. the "let's help him forget about his troubles" mindset). Those people have no idea what you're going through. Partying will only make you fell lonely - like something or someone is missing. And alcohol is a depressant. Don't be mad at your friends, though. They just don't know of any other way to help. -- droxford
