How to get more alone time without upsetting the GF...?

Being honest from the beginning saves you from dealing with all sort of **** later on. Lying to get p***y is not the way to go; it never ends well for anyone.

 

1. The ones who are crazy.

2. The ones that aren't.

The trick is finding the ones that aren't because you can't change the crazy ones.

 

My husband says all women are crazy... he's right.

 

It is commendable that you do not want to hurt her. But, if you continue further into the relationship and end up breaking it off, you will hurt her more later. I am female and always wished guys I dated would just be honest. It is so much easier to understand where someone is coming from, than to be guessing and second guessing everything. My very lame analysis says that she senses your reluctance and is responding by becoming more clingy. Thus creating a vicious circle. So my advice falls in with the "just be honest" crowd. You are not happy and are feeling trapped already. If she can't respect your needs, the relationship doesn't have much of a chance.

If you do decide to continue, control the circumstances. Go to her house, so you can leave when you need to.

 

I think you are suffering from COGNITIVE DISSONANCE.

Read what you've written.

She is too clingy. This is the issue.

Then you say that it is YOUR fault.

What do you want? You can't have your cake and eat it too.

 

so you're crazy?

 

Yeah. I have done tons of crazy things, sometimes I really don't see why he married me... then I remember

 

You can't get more alone time without upsetting her. Unless of course you lie.

 

If she is very recently divorced then she is already on an emotional rollercoaster and pretty much wants anyone to validate that she is ok. You are that anyone. People going through or are recently divorced are r****ded and rightfully so. She has just been through the ultimate rejection and even little ones like, I don't want to be around you tonight, still sting. Some people get through it and are cool, some people are r****ded for the rest of their days. At this point for you it is a crap shoot.

Just my .02

 

I'm not here to argue with you. You know yourself better than anyone else does.

But I'm having a really hard time here understanding what you're trying to get out of this relationship...

 

Honestly, some women are just wired that way. Just like some guys are wired that way. Personally, I am like you, need my space.

Sounds like if you really want to make the relationship stick you need to have a heart to heart with her and explain it as nicely as possible that you don't like her any less, but you need personal time.

Of course, knowing most women she will take it personally and get all offended. Then you will be right back in the same spot, spending a bunch of time with her to appease her.

Dating is such a pain.

Good luck!

 

This post is completely useless without pictures.

 

Good luck to you if you want to get married because I think you have to see your wife every single night.



Like everyone said, be honest. If she can't deal with that, then maybe it's time to let her go.

 

Why are you reading in between the lines? For gods sake, everyone else in this thread has been saying pretty much the exact same thing I have been.

1. There's no way to get more alone time without upsetting her. Unless you lie, which is only a short-term fix that will lead to more problems.

2. She will always seek the attention that you're trying to avoid. You can't fix her.

3. You have analyze whether the cost of staying together is worth the frustration. (Answer: no)

 

I second that!

 

tell her you have the herps

 

This was somewhat off-base but I don't think you would have started this thread if it didn't bother you.

As for my ****-buddy comment, that was way off base, and a stupid assumption on my behalf. I apologize.