I guess that would seem to make sense, but I haven't even thought about being unfaithful. I guess I'm looking for an explanation that'll sound rose-covered, but that is seeming less and less possible.
How about this one... She's a woman. She's entitled to a change of mind. Just back off. Let her know you're not rushing, or pushing her into anything. FWIW - When I proposed to my (then girlfriend - fiance) wife, she knew I wanted to have the relations with her. She knew I wanted to be the only one. No need for me to have a talk with her again that she might misconstrue as an accusation.
Of course, I definitely covered that base a few days ago, which is the only reason I feel like she's been less upset now than before... But thanks for the advice!
BTW- You're sig "It's Time " is kinda funny considering this thread's topic and revealed conversation.
Hey, man... Love is beautiful. Not everyone finds it in the exact same way or process. Just be careful out there.
Well I've been with this one for a little over 2 years now, and can't help but want things to work out in the long run... We have our issues, but at the end of the day, there's no one I'd want to be with than her.
Well, sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders. Hang in there... and here's to a long and beautiful relationship!
2 years in relationship without sex? Wow. I couldn't do that. That said, after two years she starts bringing up that she's ready. If she can't understand your frustration, I don't know what to tell you. What you said was completely deplorable, but hormones make you say some crazy stuff. I take it you're both pretty young?
Doesn't it depend on each relationship? You don't think it's the same with EVERY relationship, do you? Aren't all people different, so then you'd have to figure out when the time is right? I mean, that IS what separates us from animals, man... the ability to reason out stuff.
That's not so bad...it's not good but not totally bad...although, after 2 years of waiting, she took it literally and now she's not going to do it for another 2 years...
That doesn't imply she's a slut. It implies that you are insecure about the relationship because she's far away. But, of course, a woman will choose the interpretation that maximizes the personal affront. These threads make me happy I'm married. My wife will take offense at some surprising things, but it doesn't endanger the relationship.
I'm devious. I've said stupid things before, but I never admit that they were mean or unfounded. Ever. The trick is convincing her that she misinterpreted what you said (which is true 95% of the time anyway, since women are crazy). This is worthless advice since you already admitted what you meant so you cannot construe it differently. After having said what you said, I would've gone for the pity route, proclaiming that I didn't mean it in a hurtful way or insinuate that she was going to cheat, but just blurting things out because I don't feel she finds me attractive or wants me sexually or whatever. Then she might actually feel bad for putting it off, then she'll put out. Who knows? It's better than anger/hurt.
