Dont sweat it. If he was alot younger it would be more disturbing. But this is just this how that man grew up. My grandpa was one of the most racist people you would probaly ever meet. Every time i went out in public w/ him i was scared that he would say something to the wrong person. and a few times he did. I just apologized to the people he offended,and just said this is how he is. most people understood that, you cant change a old peoples view on life as much as you want to them to change. so just igore it if a situation occurs again like that
so when people slam you for your race, color, or religion, you should just sit there and take it all the time? come on, you can't blame the guy for lashing out... especially if there's some pent up frustration from similar past situations... it was unfortunate that a child was present, but if (s)he is of a similar race, than (s)he will probably see more of this kind of behavior in his/her lifetime anyways (as sad as that is to type)...
I'm Indian as well, and my dad gave me an American flag bumper sticker. I refused to put it on because I don't think an American flag bumper sticker is going to stop anyone from damaging my car. --- Three years ago after getting gas, my car battery died at a podunk gas station off Highway 71. Fortunately my interaction with people at the gas station was different. I waited about 6 hours for a tow truck (from like 2 PM-8PM). Although I felt like I got a few stares, I think it was because of my situation, not my skin color. No one said anything negative to me, and the clerk who was white was very polite and let me receive calls from the store phone (my cell phone reception was 0 so I was using a pay phone). If someone had said something, I don't know how I would have acted.
Oh, I don't know...if some dumbass redneck was telling me to stop bombing people, I'd feel the need to tell him to shut his racist ass up. Is it really that hard to understand?
yeah that sounded way too intense... should have just left words are just words, no matter how much they burn, but that could have quickly gotten out of hand and someone could have gotten hurt (you, girl, kid?) I understand how fired up you were but there are better ways settle things like talk to the cashier and sue his dumb ass... you can't speak to your employees that way, plain and simple hit him where it really hurts... $$ bah read that wrong, I thought the white dude was the owner
those of you that are putting down the guy for his actions, do you honestly think that you wouldn't do the same if you were suddenly blindsided with racist comments in the middle of a normal day? If so, then you are a better man than me... but can you really fault someone for reacting the way he did (or I would, or many other people of color?) To suddenly have your dignity stripped from you in public and be harassed about your background without warning... i don't think anyone should fault him for his initial reaction... hindsight is 20/20.
so when people slam you for your race, color, or religion, you should just sit there and take it all the time? come on, you can't blame the guy for lashing out... especially if there's some pent up frustration from similar past situations... it was unfortunate that a child was present, but if (s)he is of a similar race, than (s)he will probably see more of this kind of behavior in his/her lifetime anyways (as sad as that is to type)... I defintely cant blame him for lashing out but it just dosent accomplish anything. There is nothing he could have possibly said to change the mans views. But I have never been in a situation like that so its hard for me to tell him what he should have done. There really is no right or wrong answer on this other than violence defintely accomplishes nothing.
Ya'll get mad at idiots like this? I just laugh. ROckets03 may laugh next time when he's mentally prepared for some bizzarro like that. I had one boss get really pissed at me because his boss asked me if I thought he could handle a job and I said no. My boss was screaming at me, so I started smiling. I get really amused when people lose it or just act idiotic. He started shaking (!) and screamed 'you wipe that smirk off your face'. I felt like turning around to see if his kid was standing behind me. I guess some people want to hit losers like this, and I can understand that. I find it simultaneously sad and amusing. Ironically [and not that it really matters at all], but the dope's ancestors arrived here long after Easterners arrived across the Berring Straight. I guess he needs to 'go back home'. (Sorry about the experience, though, 03)
I'm concerned for the clerk. While 03 will never see this guy again, the clerk lives and works in that town. I bet this guy will be back.
Yes it was a natural reaction that just about anyone would have that doesn't mean you don't reflect on the situation and learn from it.... That situation was too hot, and next time, AT LEAST take loved ones outside at least that's how I think he should have responded/respond next time to the racist comment.... i.e. the title of the thread
Yeah that is exactly how I'm looking at it now. Definitely a learning experience. I think I'll respond to a similar situation a little more calmly in the future. I know. That is exactly what is making me feel so crappy right now. I mean I was no better then that guy today. Thats not bad advice. I am definitely not one to take crap from anyone. But everyone should be a little more careful when young children and others are present. If I was alone then my reaction might have been okay (the racist remark notwithstanding). But I was basically in charge of three other lives besides mine. The lesson I got from the situation is to not get "fired up". I agree with you and RM95 that one should definitely not take crap. But what exactly is yelling going to accomplish? I am not advocating turning away and ignoring the situation, but yelling and yelling racist remarks especially back to the other person is definitely not goint to solve anything in this world. My advice would be to be a little more calm in the situation. And maybe even walk away if women and children are with you.
You should have just told him to go suck on some monkey balls. I admit, the best thing to do would be to follow the great advice of ignoring the comments, however, it's hard to ignore such ignorance. I do hope you, and everyone else, learns from this confrontation.
maybe i'm just not as levelheaded, calm/collected, or intelligent as the rest of you guys, but after some contemplation, i think i'd probably act the same way if i came across a situation like this in the future. of course, i'd probably tell my loved ones to step back into the car before taking any course of action, but that's about all i'd change. again, maybe i'm just not as reasonable as the rest of you b/c these kind of situations upset me more than anything else.
Get it straight hangout boy, its donkey balls not monkey balls. It is hard for me too to ignore such ignorance, but that might be the best thing to do sometimes.
You guys telling him he should've acted calm: My god, if were only that easy. I'm black. I've been prejudged, accused of stealing, had my intelligence questioned, been detained by police, even had shouting confrotations, all because of the color of my skin. But none of that is half as bad as people coming to me, accusing me of wanting to destroy the country I was born in and love. God, if that happened, I'd probably try to beat the sh*t out of anyone who so much as looked at me funny. Rockets03, I'm not commending you for your actions, there was a child present, but I'm not codemning you for them either, I understand.
