How often do you visit your parents or even call them?

I'm really bad about phone calls. I should call them more but I tend to put it off and feel bad when I do get around to calling them. My wife is a ton better than me she calls her mom and dad every day.

I should stop taking it for granted the time I have with them and get better at just checking up on them daily.

 

i'm 21 and just graduated college...now live and work in dallas..parents live in sugar land.

i talk to my mom and dad atleast 2-3 times a day...very short conversations (1-3 min), but always call them on the way to work...sometimes durng lunch...and maybe in the evening

having short and frequent convos helps make up for us missing each other. my parents now live by themselves because all children have moved out...so the house gets pretty quiet...that is why i make a special effort to call my parents and visit them as much as possible. they haven't retired yet...touch wood they are still in good shape, age is getting up there...but thank god so far everything is good.

 

I have an idea. we should make a thread about methods and frequency of contact, and produce a score

10=in person every day
9=the Dr of Dunk score for parents
8=call or email everyone once a week or so
7=my mom is on my facebook
6=nieces and nephews are on facebook
5=indirectly through family/friends
1=I was too drunk to remember but my cell phone says I called.
0=never

between 9 and 5 is various direct means and the internet to stay in touch

between 5 and 1 is like when you know you don't stay in touch but will when they need you or you need them.

total score is your average over the entire family waited to mother first, etc.

I think I can make a web app of this calculation. haha

 

Usually only when they forget the WIFI password or how to operate the printer.

 

exactly...haha

me "mom, reboot the modem."
mom "I've done that a thousands times."
me "But mom, could you do it again?" haha

then she lies that she did so I come over and she has an elaborate dinner for me with some new chick that she wants me to date.

 

if parents want their kids to visit or call after they move out... they should probably try to be the kind of parents their kid wants to hang around.

not everybody has parents they want to be close to.

 

And I pity people that feel this way. In most circumstances they raised your ass and devoted a good portion of there life for you. I don't care if there not cool or people you want to "hang out" with. Show some respect for what they did for you and make the effort to stay in contact as much as possible with the people that are the reason you are who you are.

 

I don't call or visit my parents.

 

I'm assuming he's talking about the not most circumstances.

I go out to lunch once a week with my parents, will normally talk once more during the week.

 

you sound jaded.
it's a sad word. your life is long. moms last forever. They change, more that dads. You do too. You only have one mom. It can only make you happy to try or fail.

And this is coming from someone who understands what you are saying and gave up on his father. screw him.

to lose touch with both...=sad.

 

I talk to my mom 2-3 times a week and do church and lunch on sundays.

 

Every day. And I visit them as often as I can, as my father has Parkinson's and is very ill.

 

not often enough when i could, now i can't.

they were great folks.

 

They live on the other side of town, so it basically takes up my entire night to drive through rush hour traffic, have dinner with them, and drive back home, but I still try to do it once a week. Other than that, I text when there's a reason to.

 

We go to the same church so I see them every Sunday. I also talk to them every Wednesday on the phone.

 

I go home to do my laundry so I see them every weekend. Don't really call them.

 

I live and take care of grandmother that raised me. My uncle (who raised me like a father) passed away last November. Their are times I wish I would of stayed here in Houston for college instead of going to Austin so I could of enjoyed the last few years of my uncles life . He was 5 days from watching me walk the stage .

 

I talk to my dad at least 3-4 times a week. Before my mom moved out here to California with me I would talk to her less, like twice a week. I tend to be closer to my dad, but still love them both very much and I'm really not looking forward for their "elder' years.

 

I'm pretty much in that boat, dad died two years ago, mom lives about an hour away (I'm in Conroe, she's in Cypress) I don't talk to her nearly as much as I should. Texts 1 or 2 times a week, but not much on actual calls.

 

I'm the opposite end of that person who calls a couple times a day. I'm not really a phone talker to begin with - I only call people to make arrangements to do stuff. So I talk to them when they call me (maybe once a month).

They live in Japan and I live here, so I don't see them more than once a year either.

I don't remember my dad interacting much with us as kids. He did take us fishing few times, I guess. My mom played with us, but my dad never taught me to throw a ball or a football. The only advice I ever got from him was about tweezing the family unibrow.

Thankfully my brother taught me a little about sports or I would have been a complete outcast.