There is a difference between doing a shot with a patron, marking it down as a 'shifty', and cashing it out to house drinks at the end of the night --- and openly charging extra for a round of drinks out of spite and malice, then pocketing the difference after counting out most of the money and putting it in the register ... and not reporting any of that. It's very simple. If all these infractions happened as often as you think they did, then these purportedly "real" bartenders were out on their ass soon after you left your job.
You can't let it get to you, because you're in charge of all of this. That money on the cab meter? From what I was told in Chi, all of that goes to the cabbie. He rents the car, pays for gas, pays for his liscense at a price -- but the tip is extra and not mandatory. Same goes for baggage handlers, pizza delivery people, hair stylists, and bartenders. If the service isn't there, don't tip, or at least don't tip well (when you don't tip well, they know why you're doing it, as opposed to stiffing them altogether).
How are my standards my opinion? This is standard etiquette. Go look in any etiquette book. So, yes. This is an official standard. Move somewhere else if you don't like it.
So you're more or less admitting that the infractions you said happened repeatedly would be hard to get away with consistently?
This thread is like one of those "When Circus Animals Go Bad" shows. Calm down for cryin out loud.....and tip your bartenders!
Nice Guy Eddie: C'mon, throw in a buck! Mr. Pink: Uh-uh, I don't tip. Nice Guy Eddie: You don't tip? Mr. Pink: I don't believe in it. Nice Guy Eddie: You don't believe in tipping? Mr. Blue: You know what these chicks make? They make sh#$!. Mr. Pink: Don't give me that. She don't make enough money, she can quit. Nice Guy Eddie: I don't even know a @!#* who'd have the balls to say that. Let me get this straight: you never ever tip, huh? Mr. Pink: I don't tip because society says I have to. Alright, I tip when somebody really deserves a tip. If they put forth an effort, I'll give them something extra. But I mean, this tipping automatically, that's for the birds. As far as I'm concerned they're just doing their job. Mr. Blue: Hey, this girl was nice. Mr. Pink: She was okay. But she wasn't anything special. Mr. Blue: What special? Take you in the back and @!*$#!? Nice Guy Eddie: I'd go over twelve percent for that.
