OK Verse, you did sound concieted. Maybe that's just a healthy self image, but I don't think you will ever come off as needy. I still recommend the stategy above, call now , just make it friendly, blah blah see ya Saturday. That playing it cool stuff just leaves it open for someone else to swoop in your prey. She was interested enough to give you her number (if it's real) , what if you wait a week and she says oh I'm sorry I've met someone and we are dating.Maybe not bar girls, but real girls find it flattering that you are interested. My wife looking over my shoulder says "if she gave you her real number , she wants you to call, now" Jeep and Ms. Jeep
Heh. Sleep with one woman and you're branded a slut... But seriously, there's nothing wrong with a prompt follow-up call. If the woman thinks you're desperate or have issues, her loss. I see it simply as "hey, you're cool and I'd like to know you better and maybe pursue a relationship." But if you're into the playing games type, then go ahead. Excellent points made by Mr. Peterson.
thanks pgabriel, if it doesn't work out, it's all good. i just won't live with question marks... When one's own attitude on courage is fixed in his heart, and when his resolution is devoid of doubt, then when the time comes he will of necessity be able to choose the right move. *** Above all, the Way of the Samurai should be in being aware that you do not know what is going to happen next, and in querying every item day and night. Victory and defeat are matters of the temporary force of circumstances. The way of avoiding shame is different. It is simply in death. Even if it seems certain that you will lose, retaliate. Neither wisdom nor technique has a place in this. A real man does not think of victory or defeat. He plunges recklessly towards an irrational death. By doing this, you will awaken from your dreams.
that's cool. i can see how it came across. it's the impersonality of the internet. if you knew me personally, you'd never call me conceited. and i think i will take your advice. make it a friendly call...maybe invite her to the comedy club on friday night (i've never been there and getting a good laugh is always a great way to break the ice). and as for someone swooping in, once again, i agree. let's just say that i've rarely met a woman i was that fearful of losing. if someone else gets her, whatever. there's plenty of women out there. and that's not just "bar girls" LOL! i met plenty of "real girls", too. not that real girls don't go to bars, but i know what you meant.... this one strikes a different chord, though. i'd be bothered if someone else stepped in between yesterday and the time i do make that call.... oh, and tell Ms. Jeep thanks... i'll give "the rainy woman" a call this afternoon. and i'll keep everyone in touch on the conversation.
Well, you should probably call her so she has enough time to make plans with you for the weekend. She probably won't wait for you to call before figuring out what her Saturday will include.
"2 days is industry standard." - Trent Seriously make her wait a bit. Make her wonder if you are going to call. It adds a little mystery.... Of course this is coming from a guy who needs to practice the own advice that he gives.
UPDATE: WOOOOO HOOOOOOOOO!!!! just made the phone call. thankfully, she remembered me by name (saves the embarassing, "uh, i'm the guy that picked you up and gave you a ride after stalking you like a big game hunter" routine). relatively short convo, since i am at work. but we made plans to go to the comedy club on friday night (early showing). she has to get in early to prepare for a baby shower. then, we'll go out again saturady night.
So you have been reading askmen.com too?? Unfortunately, it takes about 3 drinks before I start hitting on chicks (which is usually at a bar anyways....). And then I either completely blow it, or end up going home with some skank who Isnt even that good looking.... I dont know where Im going with this.... Congrats on your pick-up. I wish I had enough balls to approach women like that.
Congrats, I wonder if she feels as strongly attracted to you as you do to her. I wonder if that strong biological attraction can work both ways at the same time? You'll find out soon!
Drewdog, if she says no, you're in the same position as if you never asked at all...so what do you really have to lose, right? at least, that's what i told myself after i left the burger king! thanks for the congrats, Drew. if she's psychotic, i'm blaming everyone in here, though! shooooot, i think i'm gonna go drink a red stripe! hooooraaaayyyyy beeer!!! hooooraaaayyyyy chasing women down in a 92 T-Bird that hasn't been washed in a year, with no AC, no rearview mirror, one window that works (driverside), no CD player, and a broken passenger side door handle!!! btw, the above paragraph made for a good laugh with her. "hey", i told her. "the car's been parked under a pecan tree for a year. i'm just glad it started up this morning!" she took it all in stride, which was a small plus with me. a golddigging women may have stressed over something like that....
good question. women can be coy. honestly, i don't plan to even try to find out until maybe the 3rd or 4th time out...at the very earliest. i've found out that sex early in a relationship (first date or two) is often a bad thing. then again, if she pushes the issue (yeah, right), i'm sure i'll acquiesce.
nah. we had already talked about saturday afternoon. but it (friday night) just kind of came up in convo. she (and i) wanted to spend time together before hanging out with my friends... it wasn't anything forced... just kind of came up....
I' just kiddin" But really, already having second date really puts the pressure on the first one. If you have one date she spends the whole night thinking "oh well, I only have to like him for one night" so that sets the standard a little lower than " do I like him enough to go out with again" judgement. Ha! no I'm just kiddin' But do keep the first date short and sweet, comedy clubs good, what do you do? Who do you know? No deep philisophical disclosures, no kinky suggestions. Just show her your not psycho and take her home. Oh and Saturday, get her drunk.
Get your sorry ass out there Drewdog. You think our men weren't scared when they hit the beaches at Normandy? You think stepping out of that chopper door in Nam was easy? Son, the whole point of our existence on this sorry rock is to love another person, unconditionally. It ain't gonna happen with you just sittin' there , in your underwear, chokin your chicken to the free stuff on The Hun's Yellow Pages. Now you be a man and go out there and make that happen. Jeep
verse, my suggestion will be: post a picture of yourself here on the BBS, then I'm sure we can give you some accurate & honest advice on what you should do... same goes to RM95...
