He's not in his 30s, he said close to his 30s....which doesnt make sense, just tell us your exact age...you could be 26 or 29, either way its an age where it happens to everyone who didnt fast forward their lives in their early 20s. If you were 40 already, then it may be different.
glad it was relatable. If you're looking for a "satisfied" life or "rewarding" life, a satisfied life is whatever you want it to be that doesnt infringe on anyone else's ability to be satisfied. Thats simply it. A "rewarding" life is where you get recognition or awarded an honor for doing things, the sum of all deeds put together, getting a cookie for the efforts. There is NO reward. After you complete all the phases the so-called life experts wanted you to do, at the end there will just be MORE phases added on, more suggestions. Really, every single person living should be doing something "better than what they're doing". At this very moment, every single one of us here on CF should be doing something more beneficial besides posting messages. TV, video games, music "corrupts" and you should be in the hospitals volunteering. See how that crap works? Its mind game BS. Is a bunch of bitter bastards telling others what to do. For all the philanthropy and saving humanity and adopting Angelina Jolie was doing, she had her own kids anyway. Whats that tell you? We're born, raised, we eat, sex, work, play, have kids, die. All the other stuff, while awesome, is extra. If you're not enjoying your life, someone else will gladly take it and enjoy it for themselves. If you're not doing it, someone else will. Being "selfless" and "independent" has its limits.
Stop giving a **** about other people for a while, once you get your youth out of your system, you can live a happier life.
Didn't read the whole thread, but I know exactly what you're going through, as most of us go through it in our lives. Here's the only advice I can give: Don't sweat it. It appears to me you're happy right now. You are a productive member of society, that works for a living and supports yourself and you are happy. What else matters? The only reason I believe you're questioning yourself, is because it may not be a "traditional path," i.e. go to college, marry your sweetheart, buy a house in the burbs, squeez out some kids, and chase the top of the corporate pyramid... but f*** it. That just means that you're traveling down a different path. We all have our own road to hoe. I went though a "drifting" period where I closed a bar down every night, and chasing a** and getting high were my main priorities. I didn't hurt anyone, I paid for it all myself with money I earned and payed taxes on, and I had fun. I'm married now and have a house, and I'm in a more "focused" place in my life, but I'm no less happy. You may not want to "settle down" right now, you may want to in the future or you may not. Who give a sh**? It's your life, make of it what you want to. As long as you don't make society at large write you a welfare check, you're not harming the general public, and you pay your taxes, then I think you're a smashing success. You want to knock someone up and put a ring on it 10 years from now, sweet... do it. If you want to continue to lead your life as you are now, sweet... do it. Our world is what we make of it, so do what makes you happy and ignore what anyone else tells you you're "supposed" to do.
you post a lot of jokes, but it makes me truly appreciate your serious ones like this. You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Mr. Brightside again.
i think you need to get some homies and bond. i mean i have the same routine everyday: work, gym, eat, sleep. but my friends keep me alive and motivated. and having casual sex definitely helps. you'll be fine.
Great thread. I've thought about it many times. I'm 40 something chasing a dream that may not ever be realized but I am truly enjoying the journey. All around me are people with more financial stability, nicer cars and bigger homes but I sincerely don't know if they are as happy as I am. I live a modest lifestyle that affords me some luxuries, but my blessings far outweigh my desire for the things I can't afford. I earn money solely based on my talent, some years its in great demand, and then...well there's this year . Sometimes I sleep until 12, other times I'm up at 3am pondering my next move or packing a suitcase preparing for a 20 plus hour day, I appreciate both. From your posts homeboy I think you're on the right track. Good luck at whatever you decide, and I don't know that paragraph placement makes that much of a difference.
Hey now. Don't diss the paragraphs. I read it in Tony Robbins' new book, "How to not waste your life in 90 days" 2nd edition.
You sound like you are living a life that makes you happy, if that is the case then don't worry about anything else. We all have a path in this world and if you believe you are on it then live on brother. I like everything you mentioned as something you wouldn't like but some of my buddies feel the same as you. We all have a different perception of what life should be, just enjoy yours.
So no credit card debt and car note or mortgage to worry about?? You are doing pretty damn well. *pat on the back*
Don't worry about them. The reality is that most of them are buried up to their eyeballs in debt just trying to maintain the illusion of being "well off" when they are really just a few paychecks away from filing for bankruptcy. The definition of STUPID is buying things you can't afford with money you don't have to impress people you don't like. But we see it everywhere we look.
Homeboy1 you can still obtain a bachelor's degree. http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dy...09/AR2010090903350_2.html?sid=ST2010090904227 Now, take a key argument in favor of getting a four-year degree, the one that says on average, those with one earn more than those without it. Education Department numbers support this: In 2008, the median annual earnings of young adults with bachelor's degrees was $46,000; it was $30,000 for those with high school diplomas or equivalencies. This means that, for those with a bachelor's degree, the middle range of earnings was about 53 percent more than for those holding only a high school diploma.
Tell me about it. I have someone very close to me who defines the profile. He lives in a milion dollar home with 2 daughters who were accepted into very good schools. Because of his debt and mismanagement they are both in community college.
It all depends on what you want out of life. As long as you're happy it really doesnt matter just keep doing what you do. College, kids, and marriage isn't for everyone you don't need those things to be happy but they do help.
When you can browse the internet, without an internet service provider, because the entire thing is cached on your local hard drive. Then. Then, you know you've wasted your life.
