Hopefully that negative reinforcement will make her think twice about physically battering someone because she couldn't take the same verbal prodding that she was dishing out. I was raised to act with manners and as a civilized human being to everyone, regardless of sex, and I expect the same in kind. If another person chooses to breach that toward me, they better have considered the full consequences of their actions. I'd prefer not to live in a world where women (or anyone) can hit a man without valid reason. Of course, one has to be mindful that men are generally stronger than women, so any retaliation should be in consideration of that. Most of the time, no physical retaliation is necessary; looking them in the eye and telling them to never touch you in that manner again is typically sufficient. If possible, establishing your boundaries ahead of time is best. Just pushing them away with one arm with enough force to let them know they crossed the line can work, or immobilizing their limbs in the case of a prolonged attack is good. I like to "be a gentleman" and act chivalrous (I simply call it "good manners" because I prefer to act that way toward everyone regardless of sex), but I expect ladylike behavior (or just being a civilized human being) in return.
You know what? Instead of slapping her, he should have wrapped his arms around her and given her a nice sloppy wet kiss with a smooth dose of pelvic thrust. DD
B-B-B-BUT the "gentlemen's code" says that men shouldn't retaliate no matter what the women/weaker sex (because that's what was being implied which shouldn't offend any women at all) does to you!!! (I liked your post btw.)
It's wasn't the right thing to do, but it wasn't wrong either. Nothing wrong with a counter slap. <object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/IYP_MgWF8hw&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/IYP_MgWF8hw&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>
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Sure, talking about the entire equal treatment of sexes thing is an interesting discussion and all that - but the majority of responses seem to be taking the incident out of context. This was a game show where you signed up to take punishment. The host was playing her part, playing her role. Even if she stepped over the line and threw a slap where she wasn't supposed to, if you were a contestant on a show where you were supposed to take abuse, wouldn't you show some more restraint and understanding (knowing what you had gotten into) even if she went too far?
Let me see if I got it: First she says a lot of things to the guys and the guys didnt respond, then she is angry and leaving because the guys are not answering back, then the guy answers back, and she slaps him, and then he slaps her. So she wanted to get responded to the bad things she was saying, and when he responded, she doesnt like it, and slaps him. thats not right.
Correct, though I think I've gotten the basic gist. The funny thing about it is I'm pretty sure we've had this basic discussion several times before.
So you're equating verbal abuse with being b**** slapped? That's interesting. I mean, it's pretty obvious from the look on the guy's face and his retaliatory smack that he didn't agree to getting physically abused during their "skit".
A man has equal right to wear a dress, a man has the equal right to slide his s's, a man has equal right to stay at home while his wife works, a man has equal right to be an interior decorator, and a man has equal right to slap a woman if she slaps him. I'm just not that kind of man.
If it is ungentlemanly to slap her back after she slapped him, then wouldn't it be considered unladylike to slap a guy for just being plain honest, especially if she thinks that because she is a woman he can't slap her back. Makes no sense to me.... double standard
Please understand me, I was never in any way defending her actions. She appeared to be a real a-hole and beeotch. There is no doubt about it.
Actually it's written down several places and has evolved depending on region and time period. I freely admit I'm not stating anything verbatim, but it is my own interpretation on what I believe to be the spirit of it.
The situation was out of control when she slapped the hell out of him. That was way UNLADYLIKE of her. In that context of surprise you fully expect a man to have no instinct to retaliate and behave all cool and calm like Clark Gable? She had it coming to her. I'll behave like a gentlemen in the company of a Lady.
