[Help] Would it be unreasonable to sue for defamation of character here?

To get you to see the other side........or at least to get you to see how you are being perceived by others. I'm sorry you got engaged to the chick, but at least you found out she was a cheating, lying b**** before you actually tied the knot. But now you know she is a cheating, lying b****. Accept the fact that you made an error in judgment, and move the F on. Don't try to contact her, don't talk to her friends about her. Hell, if they are her friends, don't even seek them out. If they ARE your friends, just don't bring her up. IF they bring her up, act disinterested.........until such time that you are disinterested.

Otherwise........you are the one who looks like the emotional wreck in this little domestic drama. And she'll end up looking believable.

 

let it go. don't even try to get into a pissing match with a lieing, ex, psycho...

 

I'm sure many others have said this, but let it go and move onto more positive things in your life.

No matter how much you want to, and no matter what you do, you aren't going to win, nor are you going to save face.

 

bang her friends

 

Best advice! LOL

No but really, why even contact her saying Hi and asking how she's doing after what she's done to you? Why should you even care about her well being? or even being polite? I think a girl like that doesn't deserve a second chance and should never be given the benefit of the doubt -- cause when you do you're just lying to yourself. She's a hoe and you can't turn a hoe into a housewife!

 

In the poker game of life, women are the rake. They are the ****in' rake.

 

Christ Jesus man, just let it go.

You've basically said you're resentful. Which means you're angry. Which means there is something else behind that. Probably hurt, disrespected, sad, etc.

What good would it do to 'know the truth'? You'd just be opening that wound all over again.

The more you keep on with these reactions the more you're empowering her.

Empower yourself and let it go.

 

useless with out a pic.

 

Do the subtle things in life that you can get away with.

Goto your spam folder. Start responding with all her information.

Goto those sites that offer a 3 months of free magazines. Do about 20 of those. She'll keep getting them after the three months, along with the bills.

Do colombia house. i hear the are a pain to cancel.

 

No kidding. Give it up and walk away. Your real friends will believe you, and anyone who doesn't that's connected with her isn't worth the bother.

 

It seems like you're trying to hold onto the past, which is the one thing you shouldn't do if you want to get over an ex that you were in a seriously relationship with. Like everyone else said; just walk away. Forget her and move on.

 

Very good advice. I can relate to how you are feeling about this, Drexlerfan, but follow Pole's advice...

 

You seriously need to let it go. This is what she is doing... She feels horrible inside for what she did to you. So, in hopes of making herself feel better she is trying to make you into the bad guy. She'll do whatever she can to make you the bad guy. She is telling her friends all of this too for sympathy.

The same thing sort of happened to me a few years ago. I caught my girlfriend cheating and lying and once I found out the truth, we talked about it, I handled it like an adult, told her I didn't want to be with her anymore and basically, goodbye. She wouldn't let it go, she said we can make it work, she called me a jerk for "leaving her", and she kept on and on so finally I called her a fking biotch and told her to leave me alone. She then told all her friends, her parents, all of her family, and all of my friends that I called her a biotch and because of that, she said I was verbally abusive. So, I was the bad guy.

 

Dude.

I'm not even going to read all of this.

She cheated on you. **** her.

Eject.

Move on.

Jesus ****.

 

I thought a Clutchfan was going to sue another CF for def. of character. Also thought MacBeth was back.

 

Forget about the law for a moment. If you go in front of a jury seeking money for this weak story, you are going to get laughed out of court.

It seems that what she did to you is a wound that has not healed. What she is doing now is insult added to injury and you want to feel like you hurt her in return.

Let it go. Use this as a learning experience. You are allowing yourself to be damaged further unnecessarily.

 

Damn. I'll nip this in the bud. There is nothing you can do.

My ex-wife remarried on the day of my divorce. Within 3 months, my own child had been "taught" my name was no longer "Daddy", but "Jim."

I went to several lawyers. They all said that I "could" fight it, but it was not worth the money.

My child has lived in Memphis for 7 years now. I'm lucky when I get visitation. And to all the lawyers who say "YOU SHOULD FIGHT" , I've done so several times, and every time, they let her off. These days, I'm lucky if I get a phone call from my son, even though I call him every week. ( she's had two new childbirths, and doesn't think they need the added stress.)

Some of y'all don't know how crappy the court system can be towards a parent like I have.