i'm just honestly worried we're gonna have a poor sex life.. a healthy and long lasting relationship requires a good sex life, no?? i just hope it doesn't happen again.. damn.. anyone know why such cases happen to men? at that time i had a fan blowing on me so maybe it was making my piece limp? or maybe because we were making out for four hours before taking our clothes off cause i had a hard on during those four hours and maybe my thing got too tired? and am i a novice?? maybe.. i've only had sex maybe three or four times.
I think your sudden "limp" is a result of stress. More of psychological. Just relax, don't worry, Your instinct as a man and a lover will take its way eventually and when that happens your sex life will gradually improve.
Relax... Like another poster in here said, it's supposed to be fun. One day you are thinking about dumping her, the next you are projecting you and her being married and having a bad sex life? I sounds like this is one of those situations where this is your first real girlfriend that you are going to be having steady sex with. That combined with your age and lack of self confidence is like a ticking time bomb. This relationship is basically already destined to fail at some point. But enjoy it while it lasts and see it as a bunch of learning experiences. That experience will help you develop confidence. You need to relax. Erase your mind and just go out and have fun times with her and practice getting better at sex with her. Stop thinking you have to live up to being husband material for her, and stop believing that she is judging you on that level. She's not.
You say that you don't find her "sexy" Well what does that mean? It's really simple actually. If she turns you on, then the relationship is going to work. If there is no sexual chemistry (e.g. if you can't get "hard") when you're close to her (not necessarily in bed), then it's not going to work. Sorry for being so blunt.
this is confusing, are you having fun with this? Did you have problems the other 4 times you had sex? Were those girls little people? Where they girlfriends, friends, sluts? Was it one 4 times or 4 diff ones? Sounds to me like you're having too many issues for someone who's had sex before, sure 4 times isn't a lot, but this sounds like it's your first time at age 16. If its all true it's gotta be psychological...were the other girls "ugly"....maybe its the first time you felt self conscious cus this one seems too good for you...just enjoy it and stop thinking about it too much.
Yep, stress is a tough thing to deal with, especially when it is self-imposed. Score some Viagra for next time... it's not just for old guys and it takes all of the performance anxiety out of it so you can have a good time. Once you do this a time or two, you won't need it anymore.
I dunno man, this guy seems insecure enough that if he started using it he might convince himself that he needs it. McGrady, don't forget to make sure she's giving you a handy before the actual sex if you need it. Sometimes you can lose arousal during the stage when you're undressing and positioning yourself for sex. The lack of stimulation and trying to figure out what setup you're doing can happen like that. A few pumps and you should be good to go. Is this chick a virgin? Does she know what she's doing?
Start experimenting with her sexually: oral and anal type stuff. If you don't necessarily like what she has, maybe you can learn to like what she does with it anyways.
