You're 22. It's your first serious relationship. (How are you even defining that?) Who cares. Get out now and be a single 22-year old.
Boobs are over rated. We all love to look at them but they really don't do anything. Hell I thought all girls these days wear Wonderbras so it looks like they all have boobs anyway. How's the sex? Enthusiasm can go a long way. Committed relationships that stand the test of time are built on compatibility. If you enjoy this girls company (laughing a lot is a good indication) and you want the same things in life then you forsake and commit. That is the mature adult way to live. It may not be as exciting as being a horndog but it has less negative drama as well. If you don't see being with this girl as a positive for the long term you move on. Things like, tension and fighting are negative indicators, kids or no kids, feelings about material wealth and what you are willing to commit to achieve it, whether the sex is what you want, whether you are up to spending time with her family. Usually the way these things go at 22 is , you get distracted by your hormonal drive to spread your seed so you break up. As an average guy with self-confidence issues, real life just get you frustration and then loneliness. You decide you want her back and beg her forgiveness. She may say yes or no depending on how badly she got hurt and whether she's met another viable candidate. I've seen that play out a thousand times. Only you can weigh your decisions. But in any case you owe it to her to be honest, couched by a little judgement to protect her feelings and respected. It as much about her as it is you.
Please get a vasectomy ASAP. this advice pretty much applies to 99% of relationship threads on this forum.
THIS IS COMPLETELY NORMAL! You know the saying "the grass is always greener on the other side." It's ok to think her body isn't perfect. I'm sure she has physical issues with you as well. Recommendation: Start going to the gym with her. If you both like the improvements that you both get, maybe the physical part won't bother you so much. A woman that is comfortable and confident with her body will rock your world. If you really care for the girl, her physical "inadequacies" won't matter to you in the long run.
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You're 22. The things that are important to you now won't be the same 10, 15, or 20 years from now. You need several more "serious" relationships to figure those things out. Just let this relationship run its course. It will end under its own steam. Just be honest with yourself AND her. When you're ready to move on, be a man and end it before starting something new. Karma is real.
McGrady, It seems like you're a nice guy. Sounds like there could have been potential. You might have made it pretty far. But it definitely sounds like the problem is all in your head. Sometimes you just have to part ways if you can't get it together mentally. Signed, the Rockets
Agreed...don't lead her on and don't waste either of your time...She's pretty, but don't find her attractive? that's ok, just move on and find someone who is attractive to you...the next one may be a butterface, but as long as your happy... well, there you go, you're insecure and afraid to walk away because she's slumming it and will eventually figure out she's dating below her...Look, love is special, love is kind..oh wait... If you truly love her, it wouldn't matter...trust me...you're just not that into her and afraid of being alone and dating skanks...it's ok...you're young, plenty of women out there that will be perfect for YOU... post pics please...
If you stay with her long-term, there is a good chance that she might put on weight anyway. Then she may have more of the boob and booty you desire. Just a thought.
I've spoken with her and, in her heart, she wishes he had thinner hair and more of a pot-belly... but she's willing to wait on those things.
It is poor advice to tell someone to stay with someone they aren't attracted to. Is attraction the most important thing? No, but it's a factor. How many people here aren't attracted to their wives/ significant others?
He doesn't say he's not attracted to her. He's just fantasizing about "perfecting" her. Someone sad ~"man up" and let her go; I say "man up" and look her in the eyes not the bustline or booty-- choice is yours. A lot of the advice I've seen here is pretty damn scary. Just mow through people until you grow up and figure out what you really want. Is that really good advice? Will that every really happen? Would you want anyone you cared about to be treated that way?
