Go out and have sex with ten hot girls this month. At the end of the month, you still think you'll be feeling sorry for youself? There are millions of women out in the world, why get hung up on one that doesn't want to be with you. It's her loss, move on to the next. Your ex sounds like a normal girl: bat**** crazy. She's probably just giving you a ****-test. If you want to play, you can. Don't contact her at all. Not IM, not phone, not email, nothing. If she contacts you, be completely unavailable every time. Even if you aren't doing anything, make something up. Make it appear as if your life is better and more fun without her. If she hangs out the same places you do, you better be showing up with other girls, preferably attractive ones. If you don't feel like playing, and want to just drop this girl completely, you do the same thing pretty much. NO contact. I mean none. Don't leave a nasty voicemail like some other poster suggested. She will just laugh at you, and tell her friends about it and they will all have a nice laugh at you. Completely break contact. Archive all evidence of her that you have to look at around your house, put it in the closet. No matter what you do, you need to start valuing yourself higher relative to women in your life. She's lucky to be with you, lucky to be a part of her life. If she chooses not to be, that is truly her loss. It shouldn't matter to you, because your life is so awesome anyway. Good luck.
I made my above post before reading past your first post. DO NOT attempt to try to "fix things". You can't. The only thing you can do is display alpha-male characteristics. If you seem needy and try to patch things up, you'll just seem pathetic and push her away even more.
... lol. You really shouldn't have done this. Even if you really had to do this, you have already set the tone for the encounter. "I was wondering if you had time" is weak. You could have said "Meet me Friday night." "You pick the time" is weak. You are a man, act like one. You tell her when to meet you. Also, by telling her to pick the time, you give the impression that you have nothing else to do on Friday night. Go for it though man, good luck. Hopefully it will all workout somehow.
Gone are the days when you could smack them in the head with a club and drag them into a cave and have your way with them. Try to portray the image of the man you think she wants to be with. You know this woman better than any of us so you know what she's attracted to. Be that man and be some what available to her. Don't be needy, but if you play the I don't give a **** and I'm always busy hand you could end up losing her for good if she calls your bluff.
that was EXACTLY my plan. That was already my plan I just took to long to execute it. But I feel good about everything now, I'm sure everything will work out ok. Whether it goes my way or not, I'm gonna be just fine.
After reading this carefully I've come to the conclusion that this is entirely your fault and that you deserve this.
is this girl between the ages of 20-23? If so, I believe there is a stage some girls go through that have been in long term relationships where they know where the road leads if they stay with you, but they want to know what else is out there. Not necessarily a guy but life in general. Best thing I can tell you is, you do the same. If you do want her back, do what the other guys say Move on. Don't be too available to her. Don't contact her Don't initiate any meetings Don't dwell Don't try to understand her Don't ask why Difficult yes, but one of two things will happen. You'll realize one day that you actually have moved on. Usually this is after you wake up from a night you barely remember with 3 girls you'll never forget. OR She'll start to pursue you, and you get her back. So it's really up to you what you want to happen.
Remember, she is PREY! The little cutesy-wutesy bunny rabbit and you are the HUNTER with these huge wolf paws just ready to maul something.
I did exactly that with a girl I was crazy for and yes I lost her. It only took about 10 years to get over her. If I had it to do over I would have played the game a little different, but you don't get do overs in love and war. I'm married now to a great woman and I've moved on, but If I had a time machine I might be tempted to going back in time and have a little talk with myself on how to better handle that situation. You have to keep the lines of communcation open even if you're fighting or things can spin out of control an become fubar real fast. Hope this helps bladeage. Sounds like you're getting a handle on things.
Dude you just proved my point. You are now married to a great woman. Who cares about that other girl. You shouldn't have been so broken up about her.
thewaterox, that was me, too. I turned sour and would only see chicks as b*tches and then frickin' learned my lesson, too. I changed some ways, and now I am also married to a great woman and I will never dwell on that sh*t. BLADEAGE: Where's her picture and her number? We'll do the work for you. jk. Look: don't act like a whining little b*tch to her. If you act like a whining little b*tch to her, you'll be acting like her little brother, her little sister, or her little enemy. Let me get this straight: You still want this girl, don't you? She must have stopped "loving you" because you did something or did not do something and she got upset. DO NOT try to find out what this thing is. Act like you were RIGHT on doing or not doing anything all along. Act like a man, man. Don't make us turn in your man card for you. I was about to say "deez nutz" to TMac640 but I couldn't compete, someone had already done it, or his post was on the money.
You know what they say hind sight is 20/20. Yeah I came back from heart break road and now I've reached a state of happiness , but when you're in the position that bladeage's in you can't see past your pain. That's why when you guys start telling him to act like Mr. Macho I try to be the voice of reason and give him more subtle advice. It's like that line from one of my favorite flicks Platoon: "Man you can't cure the headache by cutting off the head!"
