Drinking solves all your troubles...Or at least that's what I heard... but seriously, drinking will only help you forget the problem as it'll be there the next day...If she's the type of girl that when she makes a decision, she'll stick with it... You may not want to find out why she doesn't love you anymore as the truth hurts...She may have another guy already and if that's the case, no need in making things worse...Of course, I'd be curious, but definitely wouldn't do the friends thing... 5 years is a long time and maybe it'll be good to get out and see what's out there...Hate to say it, but things happen for a reason...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AqRH9l1symk next time she comes over just hit it like never before but try not to kiss her then when your done kick her out the house..
LOL This reminds me of Kill Bill 2 when B. Kiddo wakes up to find that she's been rented out so to speak. Remember what the hospital intern says, " This girl's couch can get really dry sometimes."
another little question.....if you knew that there was a way you could get this person back. cuz u know some of the stuff that went down was due to confusion...or maybe becuz of the infamous Garth Quote... "Let me tell you a little something I learned about women...they want you to come get them....they LOVE it." Would you go for it? Or would you let it go?
To that Dr. Phil comment earlier about the guy who would try to impregnate his wife while she was sleeping: No offense, but how small do you have to be for someone not to notice, sleeping or otherwise?
maybe he just chokes the chicken and let's his man juice soak into her undees hoping one will be strong enough to swim into her water hole. when she wakes up, she just thinks she had a wet dream.
Someone on this board said on a similar thread that if a woman leaves you once, she will leave you twice. Also, do you really want to live all paranoid and nervous because maybe in 5 years she'll be gone again?
What you said about anger is pretty natural. I'd recommend reading about the grief cycle, what it is, and how it affects people. People tend to associate the grief cycle with death, but it is applicable in many more situations. In brief, you've experienced a loss, and anger and confusion are a perfectly natural response to this. Just google "grief cycle" and see what you can find. It is important to feel your feelings in this. Don't suppress them or try to hide them; they'll come out one way or another and need to be experienced, not stuffed.
I prefer to think of this in terms of basketball: 1. Rebounds- They aren't just beneficial in basketball. They can be effective following a break-up. 2. Court Awareness- She may have been your main focus for 5 years, but like the cliche goes, there are others out there and always will be. 3. Technicals- She's got 1 technical already. Like the other person said, she could wind up leaving you again. Maybe you can give it one more try, but if she breaks it off again, that's 2 technicals and it's time to move on. 4. Home Court Advantage- It might feel like she has the upper hand because she did the "breaking," but bottom line is that you are still in complete control of your "court"- you can decide to pursue her or go another route. As long as you always remember your degree of control, it's a good thing. 5. Teammates- You are doing the right thing bringing this up among people whom you can count on to lend an ear and give helpful advice. As much as I love women, they can come and go- your friends ("teammates") are always there. Eck, didn't mean to get too sentimental, but it's the truth- I've had the same 4 best friends for over 18 years- how many girlfriends/wives can you say that about? Best wishes to you- believe me, you've got 100s of posters who can definitely empathize with you.
[UPDATE][HELP] Dealing with a bad break up... UPDATE: I emailed her, it was short and to the point. I said "I was wondering if you had time Friday evening to meet, you pick the time and let me know" she said "Is 8pm ok" i honestly figured she would have said something like "No I dont want to meet, there is nothing more to say" or something along those lines. I'm gonna give this one shot, I will let you guys know how it goes. I really wanna thank everyone for their advice and support, I know we dont know eachother but I consider you all my friends for helping me in my time of need. Thanks to everyone.
don't beg her to stay together. that will just push her farther away. and if she somehow flakes on you this Friday, i say you've lost her and just let her go for good.
No I'm not gonna beg. I just want to talk, to try to understand her decision, if I feel there is no chance, then I wont push it at all.
