btw, i learned that line from a friend of mine who's pretty smooth with the ladies. you can get away with so much if you say it right.
This thread is not real but I think another poster used the hockey puck. Drop it between yourselves, when she looks at it, ask her if she wants to puck
+1 Although take my advice with a grain of salt! I've been married for 9 years so I have no problems getting a "date" for dinner. I think this advice is good because you didn't meet this chick in a "hookup" type situation where asking her out directly would be the thing to do. Also, if you do ask her to join you for dinner and she says no, don't act bummed out. Once again, you've got to act "normal".
Use this line: Listen…you’re cute, there’s no getting around it. So I don’t know if you like country music but I was thinking one of these days we could drive out to a field, crank up some tunes, smoke a few Macanudos, maybe even toss a disc around…at-whay o-day ou-yay ink-thay
Bingo. I would take it one step farther on the casual meter: just do this for lunch. Lunch is safer (for women to say yes to) and it's cheaper for you, so if it doesn't work out, you aren't out much. Make no mistake, if she says yes, it IS a date, however casual. It's just up to you to seize the moment and make the most of it. And don't overhype it in your head. Women want to date, have sex, etc, as much as men do. They just hide it better. Good luck!
This one always works for me, and I'm a stud: You know what you look like to me, with your good bag and your cheap shoes? You look like a rube. A well scrubbed, hustling rube with a little taste. Good nutrition has given you some length of bone, but you're not more than one generation from poor white trash, are you, D&D girl? And that accent you've tried so desperately to shed? Pure West Virginia. What's your father, dear? Is he a coal miner? Does he stink of the lamb? You know how quickly the boys found you... all those tedious sticky fumblings in the back seats of cars... while you could only dream of getting out... getting anywhere... getting all the way to the FBI!!
Thanks for the advice guys. We work til 11PM, so I don't think after-work dinner is a realistic thing. I'm going to ask her if she wants to eat lunch with me at a benihanna's style place on Saturday. I will update you guys after work tonight.
no man, im gonna give you different advice cuz this old school 'lets get dinner' stuff is cheesy and overplayed. its real easy; just ask her to hang out and do something together you both enjoy. it might well be dinner, but dont just ask her to dinner, say 'we should hang out, what are you doing on friday?' then, be confident and flirty, give little physical signs of flirting (like pinching) and just be yourself. make sure you close on the first night...give her a kiss. and just go for the kiss...if you can tell she doesnt want to make out or anything, just give her a peck and then pull away. you need to be the alpha male and you need to leave her wanting more. just trust me on this, you sound young and dinner on the first date is for old people. do somehting else fun....oh yeah and avoid movies. the lack of conversation at those things is killer. oh, and be a little cocky, not super nice. girls dont want a b**** they want a man. ALPHA MALE.
Fast Times At Ridgemont High ANGLE ON MIKE DAMONE AND MARK RATNER walking the mall. DAMONE What you need is my special Five Point Plan. As he talks, Damone passes a Country Farms shop. He plucks a free sample of cheese and sausage. THE RAT Knock it off, Damone. I need real help. DAMONE What do you mean? Men have died trying to obtain this information. I will give it to you for free. The Rat and Damone continue on. THE RAT Okay. Tell me. What's the Five Point Plan? DAMONE All right. Pay attention. The Rat nods, always the student, as they pass a Wherehouse Record store. Damone stops right in front of a seductively posed life-sized cardboard stand-up of Debbie Harry, the alluring rock singer. Damone begins his speech. DAMONE (CONT'D) First of all, Rat... never let on how much you like a girl. Damone turns to the cardboard cutout of Debbie Harry to demonstrate. DAMONE (CONT'D) (disinterested) Oh. Hi. (turns back to The Rat) ) Two. Always call the shots. He turns to Debbie Harry, who looks on with an inviting cardboard smile. DAMONE (CONT'D) Kiss me. (to The Rat) Three. Act like wherever you are, that's the place to be. (to Debbie Harry; debonair) ) Isn't this great? (to The Rat) Four. When ordering food, find out what she wants and then order for both of you... it's a classy move. (to Debbie Harry; Cary Grant) And the lady will have... (to The Rat) Five. And this is most important. When you get down to making out, whenever possible, put on the first side of Led Zeppelin IV. (to Debbie Harry; seductive) Why don't you put this tape on? It sounds great in the back of my van... why don't we listen from there? ANGLE ON DEBBIE HARRY with the same inviting smile. DAMONE (CONT'D) And that is how you talk to a girl, Rat. Voila. You can't miss.
Preston, Don't be afraid of this girl. The worst she can do is say no, which is actually good for you as it means you are free to move on. Remember, being born with a vagina does not make a human being a unique and special snowflake. The less you over-value women, the easier your romantic life will be.
Uh...OK, I agree with the alpha male stuff, but don't you think that's a little forward for a first date??
Isn't D&D a game you play with others? Like at a house? Just ask her to join you. It's a harmless enough question, and her answer should tell you if she's interested or not.
Dude, once you get her on a date, you're gold, you've got alot to talk about amongst each other, you already have things in common. ummm...We will need pics of her... Now, is there any tips for having smooth conversations without uncomfortable silences with someone you really don't know? I've got something lined up next week but I don't know much about her except she's from the baltimore/DC area. Plus the fact that I know I'm not the greatest conversationalist and my wardrobe sucks right now, feels like I'm cramming for an exam.
Ask her out soon, right after a shared laugh, as stated before...You don't want the friends tag so you need to do it quickly...You want it to be known you want to go out earlier, not as friends... This thread is useless without pics...
