Well, here is the updated scoop: hehe ... hey, at least I feel better that I said it. I started out by saying that I wanted to say something and that whatever it was, it should have no bearing on our friendship ... she kinda freaked out, but agreed ... so I went ahead with long pauses, but finally got it out. Silence for a good minute, then she finally says 'Wow ... man, are you for real?', so I laughed, then she was like 'I dunno what to say ...'. I told her to be honest, and then after a lil delay, she says 'you're my best friend, and you always will be, but I don't feel the same way.' and a few other things like she is older and blah blah blah (mind you, she is only a lil over a year older!)... and basically thats how it went. I asked her that this wasn't gonna change anything in the future, and she said 'of course not' so we'll see. To answer a few questions: 1) Why not say anything for so long? Well, the friendship meant a lot and I didn't want anything to change with that, if her reply was no ... but now it doesn't matter anyways. Besides, there is no real concept of dating, so no point until I was in the position to get engaged/married. 2) Are you really sure that you like her? YES! Never been interested in anyone else, never thought about it, just this one person ... time to crawl outta the hole now Now for some reason, I feel bad for saying anything ... now what if it changes things? Oh well ... time will tell (it rhymes!) Thank you ALL so very much ... much appreciated!
Honesty about your feelings is almost, always the right thing in any relationship (friends, girlfriends, spouses)... If anything your speaking should validate the "tightness" of your friendship... I hope nothing negative changes in this friendship...
Sorry dude...I've been in the "I only like you as a friend" boat as well, but I'd always rather know than have to go through life wondering. To be honest, it will probably make your friendship closer, and it will allow you to move on. You did good.
At least you tried! You probably would have never forgiven yourself if you didn't. Most of us have had that response when we try to come clean with a girl who started off being our friend. And we all hate hearing that focking response, too. You could always let her have it after that....what...I'm not good enough for you? I've been your damn best friend for 17 years and your marrying a guy you barely know. Get lost. . Usually, aren't best friends and romantic relationships one in the same. So, you may see her as a best friend but she may see you just as a good friend who I don't want to be romantic with . Personally, I don't think you can remain good friends cause she knows you want her and she has rebuffed you....it will never be the same. At least before, you had the fantasy. Now, you have the reality. My advice...find another best friend and woman who reciprocates on a romantic level.
Sorry to hear that, but it is a VERY GOOD THING that you listened to the guys here and told her. You probably already feel that weight off your shoulders. And it doesn't mean much now - but there are very different types of love. Secretly in love with a girl for a long time, without her knowing it, is VERY, VERY different than the real thing. And now that you've been through this, you will appreciate the real thing even more. Now I have to go find the thread and see what you guys are talking about with gr8...
