You just got to live with the hair you have. All my life I felt cursed by my thick hair. I couldn't do anything with it. It was either long so I can put it in a ponytail or so short I didn't need a brush or comb. I had no style what so ever. I have to admit that I don't like to mess with my hair though. After a towel dry I want to be out of the bathroom lickity split.