You know, LeGrouper has a very good point. It all depends on the situation, and why she's not with you in the first place. If she thought that you didn't care enough, or didn't do enough for her, yes, romantic gestures will impress her. But if you were already doing that romantic stuff and it wasn't working (i.e. she wanted to go explore other things), then playing hard to get is going to work a lot better. If it's something else (you broke it off yourself, or you screwed up somehow, or the two of you just couldn't get along), then it really depends on the individual dynamics of the couple... I am impressed that some of you guys are so good at trying to impress the ladies. We need more of y'all. (of course, by the time we realize that, we're hitched to someone who never really bothered with that sort of thing... maybe LeGrouper was right all along... )
based on my situation, romantic stuff doesn't work all the time. cause i do it every chance i get. so what yah are saying is very true. but i wanted to see if there were any, like special ideas anybody had. i didn't exactly find the right one. but it was a good try. but LeGrouper. im just starting to do what your saying but im afraid that it might be to close to the anniversary. or she might not even care......who knows???sheesh.
i wish i could pull something like what you did off. but i don't know if i could make that happen. it seems kinda tough.
i'll tell you what my mom told me once...."can't never did anything." you don't know until you try...it doesn't have to be perfect...geez, it was freezing the night I did this...and I was so worried it would rain...but she appreciated the effort...and it was fun...i still remember it really well...it feels good to make other people feel special.
You just have to set some rules for yourself, like the ones I posted above. Because eventually you will break down and call her and try to convince her to come back and that will simply not work if she is not ready. And really you will waste all the nights you didn't call her by going back to day 1 on the waiting list. She has to respect you and think of you as a person with self esteem. Someone who pans over a lover who spurned them isn't showing much self esteem. Even if you really love the girl, it won't matter. It is sad but true. I never believed that no call stuff because I get really deep in love with my girlfriends and I think that I can convince them to come back, but it never worked. Then one day I was talking to this guy who was older than me and he was a total pimp, and he wasn't even good looking. But he told me about the not calling thing. He said that if I didn't call her, even if she left a message, then he would guarantee me that we would hook back up. Sure enough after two months of not calling this girl she calls me up out of the blue to tell me that she made a big mistake and wanted me back. We did get back together, but after my self esteem was back to normal because I felt like she wanted me, I realized that I didn't want her because of all the pain she caused me. It may turn out the same for you. Trust me, one day you will find someone who doesn't treat your heart carelessly and you will realize that that is infinitely more important than looks or money or popularity. I have dated some fine women who all my friends were jealous of but it isn't them that I regret not being with now. It is the one girl that I took for granted just like she is taking you for granted.
