Funny stuff in here man. Seriously though, here's my advice. You have to know what you want out of this relationship. Are you looking to hit and quit? Do you want something medium term? Or are you looking for a life partner? If you are not looking for a life partner, then you simply make her aware that you are not shopping for a mate and whatever happens, happens. She is a grown woman and is fully aware of your lack of committment. If you are looking for a life partner, and you think this is a possibility, then you have to deal with the kid issue. Or it will come back to bite you in the hiney even if it takes several (many) years. 1. You have to know that she is going to allow you to be head of household and will yield to you in all things, especially when it comes to the care and discipline of those kids under your roof. She has to accept that. She has to accept you as the father of her kids. 2. And you have to know that you love those kids as your own and will raise them as your own. 3. Both of you have to be trustworthy and keep your word. It doesn't matter what the involvement of their natural father is here. If she has the kids and they live with her and she is going to live with you as a life mate, then these 3 things have to be established and committed to by both. I would go so far as to put this into writing along with a written plan of action involving disagreements involving the kids. The one thing that I KNOW will not work is bringing a family unit together and the mother holding out her kids that she is going to raise them and be their final authority and override the man in the house that they jointly occupy. THAT WILL NOT WORK. Doesn't matter how hot she is and how great everything else is. It will finally break down the whole structure as the kids get bigger and will destroy the relationship. I've watched it happen multiple times with people I know. I am watching it happen right now to good friends of mine. Her son is now a teenager. She has never let her husband father the boy. The boy knows it and he runs over the man verbally and in every way. He has no respect for the man because his mother never respected the man enough to accept him as the father of the child. Now they can't figure out why the boy is so messed up and the man has no influence with him, mostly due to the fact that he did not understand how to get a proper committment from her regarding raising the boy when they got together years ago when the boy was a baby. Now the man is very unhappy and the boy is headed down the wrong path at a high rate of speed. And the woman can't be dealt with. She thinks she has the answers and won't listen to anyone. Their home is totally upside down. The man puts up with it because he loves his wife. Pitiful situation. And the odds are, when her son gets into trouble that they cannot do anything about, she will wind up leaving her husband. Good luck friend.
I'm really liking this girl though...I dunno what I'm gonna do. I'll let yall know. Better chicks with kids than chicks with diks. ... ehem
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LOL...mazyar, aren't you going to defend yourself? I see nothing from you when guys crack jokes on you!
Oh No! I just got a phone call that one of my close friends got into a bad car accident. I think it was hit by a truck when crossing the street. How horrible!
