I am 33 and I have had a couple of relationships with women with kids. The first time it ended horribly and I ended up missing the kid more than the mom. But you can't go hanging around trying to be with the kid because you are asking for drama. Got involved with a woman with several kids not too long ago and yes she was mature and acted as if she knew what she wanted. I didn't get involved with the kids this go round but I treated her differently because I didn't want to be the guy messing around and playing games with some poor childrens mother. Well that type of thinking threw my game off because I let her in way too soon. I did way too much and showed her too much. Then well she started to try to view me as weak and clingy. Thus making her loose intrest in me. It turns out she didn't know what she wanted and I was just a rebound. She was the one who started pumping it up about having all these feelings for me and then when I believed her and gave in things changed. didn't try to hijack your thread but be careful. and stick to the normal game plan. Don't become a wuss because she has kids.
When dating a chick who has kids, you gotta keep a few things in mind... Think of it from HER point of few. She's looking for a guy who's gonna be a husband and a father. No less. If you're not sure of wanting to be that, she's not gonna want you to waste her tim. It's probable that the father of her kid will be a part of your family relationship. Will he be there at Christmas? Birthday parties? Will they be juggling the kid back and forth? How often are you gonna see this guy? Is it going to bother you to to see him and think, "So, this is the guy who knocked up my gal." Are you willing to spend the rest of your life being a father to this kid? Raising him/her? Disciplining him/her? Paying for his/her college? Be very, very careful. Don't let her hotness cloud your thought process.
I have dated MANY women with kids, but I think that is mostly because I am a single parent myself. It is not the same as dating someone without kids because they have responsibilities others don't. There might be times where you want to go out, but she can't because there she doesn't have a babysitter. My ex wife had a daughter and I grew to really love her, but it can be very painful too if there is a breakup. If you want to keep your life simple don't do it, but if you are open to the idea of kids and everything that comes along with that it could be a rewarding experience.
i agree with this nice point but the point is you said your not looking for a GF. if youre not willing to make sacrifices and not gonna be around then dont bother with her so she will not get attached and the kid doesnt get attached. and you leave and then the kid become a gangsta and drug lord.
I love women with kids, it gives me an excuse to go to the circus and the zoo... Who doesn't want to go to the zoo and circus
You can't go by yourself? Not sure of your Zestfully cleanliness, sir? Back in the SwoLy bachelor days, I was working at a video store where I met many peeps, a couple of ladies I dated, a couple more I went out with a couple of times, but I hated getting involved romantically through the video store. I would only ask for dates if I was sure they'd be OK with us dating and if it didn't work, that they weren't psychos. Somehow, I knew which ones were and which ones weren't. Cut to the chase: there were two ladies with kids I dated. The first was cool and all, and I started wondering first how it would be for me to be around, and that the kids would be too close to my age (she was way older than me, and the kids were maybe 5 to 10 years younger than me; I was 20). Luckily, I didn't find out. She moved away and kept in touch with me for a while and told me I was a very good person whose life SHE didn't want to mess up with her drama of the baby daddy stuff. She thanked me and we talked every now and then. I think I just stopped talking to her when I started dating Mrs. SwoLy. The second lady had much younger kids, like maybe 3 and 6 and that was not a difficult way to figure out she was cool with me being that age. She was close to my age, but still older. She was the dramatic one. She kept asking, within the first date, that if I was only "physically" interested in her. She was smoking hot, but her personality was REALLY what caught my eye. I don't look at physical stuff much, but she found it difficult to believe. She said that since I "was young", that I wasn't being honest with her. Sometimes we argued about what I told her. I wasn't all too honest with her, and I should have, because I never told her that I didn't like that she didn't trust me for stuff. I would tell her I needed to do homework for school, and she said that all I was doing was trying NOT to go out with her. Man, she was a good person and all, but I bet she was scarred from her past and took it out in the wrong way. I tried to help her deal with that, but I wasn't able to. We stopped seeing each other but, like jiggadi said, you kind of start missing the kids. I made sure I let them know that they were good kids, and in no way for them that I stopped talking to that lady. Anyway, if I was to answer straight up to you, bladeage, I'd say NO, DON'T GET INVOLVED, but you know what they say about love: it conquers ALL, sir. Sometimes you gotta outweight what's good, and what's wrong, with how much you're willing to sacrifice (babysitting while she's out with the girlfriends, or doing school work, or at work, etc.) in order to stay with her, or make yourself happy. This is a SwoLy serious post.
So it's unanimous.. just hit it and quit it. Gotcha! Some luck I have though, I met this new chick and she wants to hang out Saturday night...also has a kid. I'm 24 btw.
