First thing I thought of myself....I"d leave her though. If she can hold a secret like that for that long and come clean for that reason, imagine what the relationship is gonna be like. Sounds like she is gonna make up the rules as you go.
For a lot of people, being with someone for several months and having sex with them besides does not constitute a relationship... it takes the "I love you" for it to be exclusive, no matter how long it's been...
Thats a recipe for disaster my man. Let her go. If she is hiding secrets like this just imagine what she would drop on you if y'all ended up getting married. I dunno about you but trust is a huge thing for me, so if I were in your shoes I don't know if I'd be able to trust her
I seriously can't believe some of the responses I'm seeing. I thought this was ClutchFans.net.... not TheView.net BBS.. "Once a cheater, always a cheater!" "He's no good, sister!" "Lose that zero and get yourself a hero, girlfriend!"
That is all If this wasn't going to happen . . . you would never know I am not good with secrets and omissions Rocket River a lie by any other name
Maybe I just assume most girls (& PEOPLE) already come a little cracked and damaged more than they appear. If I'm playing the game, she's probably playing the game too. Not gonna put her on some higher standard of purity I myself wouldnt want to follow....(damn 'equality', I WISH I could). I think I'm an awesome guy but , I dont know maybe I should be but I'm not ego'd enough to think I make girls lives stop dead in its tracks and do all my bidding Its a pure judgement call. Me, I'd simply delay advancing things to the next stage of love and give more time to see things over. See if she was really just protecting your relationship. And maybe see whats available out there and say "You remember that waitress who served us last time..? uuum, before we go in...."
This ain't the court of law. I don't think you need to explicitly say **** to know it's for real or not. So the time line is as such: -Somewhere between 0-2 months you guys become intimate -About 3 months after that she let's some guy lay the pipe -At month 5 you guys say you love each other -At 1.5 yrs you finally find about about Joe the Plumber Don't look too good to me. Maybe she didn't understand that you guys were exclusive. That's fine. But the type of girls I want have an implicit understanding to not double-dong around after we've had sex and continue to see/date each other. And yes, I would give her the same courtesy.
What if she had sex with him and then sex with yonkers within as 24 hr time lapse. Suppose she didn't have the decency to washout the sperm breath with Scope before mugging on Yonkers poor unsuspecting mouth. Dirty indeed.
If you were dating, but not exclusively by mutual agreement, then what is so "awful" about her behavior? What counts is her (or your) behavior after you have established that exclusive relationship. Maybe I'm coming from the generation that became the Counter Culture of the 1960's, or whatever one wishes to call it (we didn't use that phrase to describe ourselves, but the media did, as they used others), but I don't see the difference that would make in this case. You say she loves you, and you obviously love her. That is what is important today, in my opinion, not what she did before you each declared your love for one another. Worrying this incident that you found out about, like a dog worrying a bone, will only damage something that is very fine. Love is beautiful. Enjoy it!
Whoa...let me get this straight: she was doing you AND another guy for three months? Yeah, she says it was a one-time thing, but what do we have that PROVES that? Her word? Forgive me, but since she's obviously been conveniently forgetting to mention this since it happened, her word can't be trusted in this instance. If this was month # 4 and you found out about this, there would be no question: you'd be out the door, and justifiably so. Since she stuck around for another few months, that makes it better? Further, the timing seems to indicate that, rather than wanting to "get it off her chest" so to speak, she's trying to play a little preemptive damage-control, knowing that you're about to be in close contact with the guy in question. This person is not being honest, either with you, herself, or both. A relationship without honesty is no relationship at all. VERDICT: You don't need to settle for someone who won't be honest with you. Withholding the truth is the same as lying. Time to move on to another relationship.
If it's gonna bother the hell outta you, then just get an Xbox 360. Diversions like video games and alcohol solve all your problems.
The fact that she was doing him...doing another guy...then doing him. Doesnt sound very classy regardless of whether or not they were dating.
