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Gimme Somethin' to Live For (baby bro killed himself)

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Major Malcontent, Dec 26, 2013.

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  1. ElPigto

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    As been mentioned already, wish there was something I could say that would make things be better, but this is just something you'll have to go through. I know you thought more highly of your brother than of yourself, but don't harm yourself, every person has struggles in life but you have to be more strong willed and keep hustling.

    Your life is beautiful bro and although your brother's loss will leave a huge hole in your heart, don't forget that his memory will live forever as long as you carry all those great moments with you. Think of those around you that love you and appreciate you. Your life is worth gold bro, just live it. I hope you get some professional help if you are unable to deal with this.
     
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  2. giddyup

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    I think your brother's fervent wish would be that you live triumphantly.
     
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  3. Invisible Fan

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    Echoing the sentiments of others MM. This is a sad moment for me.

    I'm sorry for you and your family's loss, and try to entertain the thought that it's not an indictment on what you or others could've done or approached.

    Depression is an illness that people sometimes take on as a "mental weakness", yet we as a society don't blame victims of something physical such as cancer or flu as a form of weakness.

    Depression is a very severe condition that can't be cured by popping some pills or surrounding oneself with great company. Consequently, suicide has a nasty side effect of affecting the family's loved ones with what-ifs such as "if I only did...". Add this on top of the terrible grief of your immediate loss, it makes the trials you're facing unimaginably difficult.

    There are no words that can smooth what you're facing, but I hope by knowing this it can help the process of grief lie solely on your terrible loss rather than adding a sad and unjustified cycle of guilt and self torment in addition to it.
     
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  4. ThatBoyNick

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    Something to live for? Your parents and family, sorry for your loss.
     
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  5. the shark

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    So sorry to hear this.
    Nothing can be said that will take the pain away at this juncture.
    Be there for your family (especially your parents).

    God bless my friend.
     
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    While deep in the inescapable torment of black grief, the only thing that soothes is the promise of better days. For what pain could replace the emptiness inside?

    I ache for your loss.
     
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  7. bigtexxx

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    prayers sent for you and your family

    make sure your mom in particular gets the emotional support she needs
     
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  8. MiddleMan

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    Sorry for your loss, just spend time with your family and talk amongst each other.
     
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  9. Fullcourt

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    Major Malcontent, please give us an update when you can.
     
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  10. jocar

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    Damn. Sorry for your loss man.

    ^ This, a million times.
     
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  11. BMoney

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    That's awful news. I hope you and your family can lean on each other and give yourself time to grieve and support one another. I hope you can take comfort in your memories of your brother.
     
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    Where are you, Major? :( Talk to us, man.

    There is nothing I can say that can repair the damage to your soul and heart for now, but there is the hope that you can see better days.

    Please seek help somewhere with a professional that can restore your will to live and to understand that there is a lot more that you can do for yourself to continue to have success at life and, if not, we can find you some.

    What do you say, Of Mice and Men thespian friend? :cool:
     
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  13. Obito

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    I consider this board a second family of sorts, it's given me tons of emotions & even though I don't personally know any of you ladies & gents, my heart aches when I read this kind of stuff.

    Stay strong man, life has it's ups & downs. I promise as you tread on you'll be glad you stayed on this course called life. Can't send enough prayers & I give you all my condolences in their entirety.

    Would love an update man. :(
     
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  14. Major Malcontent

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    I am doing as well as can be expected. The police finally released his note to us, and it was comforting. The kicker was of the 15 people I asked, all of them said that if they had heard at random that one of the Fry brothers had taken his life. All but two said they would have assumed that I was the one who was lost.

    The saving grace is when I am hurting, my instinct is to reach out. My brother was so used to playing the other role, to being everyone's rock, that I don't think he knew how to go about asking for help for himself.

    Thanks to all for their love and support....when I can take a breath I will pass out rep like green Jolly Ranchers.

    Mom is doing o.k. We both look like we have aged 10 years overnight, but that's to be expected. I have been acting like a newborn (I substitute teach so I am not working during the Christmas break).....sleeping when I feel I can get it. Eating when I am hungry, without being too particular.

    For those concerned I might take a similar path. That is 100 percent off the table. I was the one that found Lane (simultaneously with a Harris Co Sherrif's deputy). I simply can't consider doing that to my mother. I will live, thrive and do theater. It is all I know to do.
     
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    so sorry to hear, and glad to see your update. sending thoughts your way
     
    #55 kaleidosky, Dec 28, 2013
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    Sorry for your loss.


    Keep your head up and be there for your mother.
     
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    Glad to hear you're doing fine.

    I bet he's proud of you right now.

    Break a leg!
     
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  18. SWTsig

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    so sorry to hear that, MM. glad you are staying stong, though.

    all you can do now is live life in a way that would make your brother proud.
     
    #58 SWTsig, Dec 28, 2013
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    Dear God, have mercy on this man and his family; heal their broken hearts. So sorry.
     
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