So now that you have the text, what would you suggest. Like i said, I had no bad intentions, I would have not asked for her # and wouldn't have acted upon it any further than just the small talk I had.
We need you to post a picture of yourself so we can better relate to your advice in this thread. TIA!
I don't believe that your intentions were bad. But I'm a woman who is comfortable with their husband and I'll point out a hot chick for him because sometimes he's unobservant. I'll lean over and whisper, "Check her out." And only because it pleases me to know what he likes. As for your situation, time is probably going to be the best. When you get home and if she's there, come up behind her and hug her, kiss her neck whatever. As mad as women get we tend to melt faster with things like that. Your chat talks about how you're surrounded by hot honeys and such, but to whom do you discuss how hot your girl is? It may seem cheesy and such, but tell her "Good night beautiful." Or whatever you may call her that is just between the two of you, babe probably isn't good enough for now. LoL.
glad you only sent the e-mail...maybe flowers would help, eventhough its a deliberate way to suck up...I'd still call her too and leave a voicemail telling her you love her...tell her you want to take her to dinner and talk about things... Everyone, guys and girls are insecure to some degree...we all think we're true to each other until someone f's up...just tell her you need "another chance" (but this only works if this is your first or second f' up) to prove you're the one (again, make sure you believe your own crap)... btw, if my g/f saw this from me, she'd be PO'd, trust me...honestly, if my g/f id this, i'd be a little annoyed, but I trust her...for now..so, in otherwords, don't provide evidence, just call your buddy and tell him you still got it...
yea...it doesn't sound so good now that we have the full chat text. a kick to the gonads may be warranted (to remind you who your junk belongs to).
Seems like this part should've kept you out of trouble. It pretty much cancels out everything else you said. She's overreacting.
see, this is a different story..... someone said the last part cancels everything out, but on the contrary, it makes it sound like you only remembered you had a chick when the small talk with the hot chick died out. It sounds like she's your consistent back up plan when you're unable to hook up with a hotter chick. and "started chatting her up" doesnt sound like small talk either...sounds like you were going after her, trying to hook up. Even if guys wouldnt dare cheat, some they still want to feel like they got it...like they can "chat a girl up", especially a hot one....which i guess is fine since you're not cheating, but i'm sure it makes your chick feel like crap...just put yourself in her shoes. What if this was her log and she said she chatted up a sexy man she ran into? And the chat implie the conversation didnt go any further only because the man had to leave?
Not sure if you're being sarcastic or not. It'd be completely different if she had logged into his email account using his password (even if she knows it) and went through his messages. If I leave something up on the screen, or if someone responds and the chat pops back up, it is no longer a private matter. It is a shared computer after all, one should be more attentive to such things.
Needy and insecure... been down this road before. Dump her. Seriously. Your quality of life will get much better and she will probably be crawling back.
the typical double standard....in the butcher knife thread guys were sure it was her trying to cheat, even though there was no mention of her being attracted or wanting the guy she was with...in this case we got a guy refering to a hot cutie and fine honeys and it's the woman who's overreacting? OP, to your chick that chat basically reads, "i would have gone further with her, but something came up, oh well i got a gf anyway". you may think it's innocent, but i thinks hes got a legit reason to worry and i dont thinks he's too far off from the "being tired of her" comment. Afterall, a big reason why people cheat or stray is because of that. And although every "mackin'" doesnt lead to cheating, usually every case of cheating started with "mackin'. It's your move now. Let her know you were trippin and you're not getting tired of her.
typically when youre with a needy and insecure chick the last thing you'll say is you're "happy with her". Also, a needy and insecure chick wouldnt have been pissed, she would have just become extra clingy and probably would suck up more to him to try to keep him from leaving her. doesnt sound like that's the case here..
not that i agree that she cant be mad without cheating...but often times the most insecure person is the one who is cheating ok...couple of other things you can do Spoiler Text her "when you gonna let me tap dat?" or Spoiler
After reading the short conversation I understand why she would be a little POed. That still doesn't mean you need to grovel or beg more than once or twice. She may very well have forgiven you but is using this to set a precedence of overreacting and treating you poorly even when you don't deserve it. Be humble but never give her the power! Also, quit "chatting up" women. You sort of lose the privilege of doing that when you enter a relationship.
And if you share a computer, quit gchatting or otherwise leaving transcripts of conversations unless you're OK with someone else reading them....
