Here is what you do. You call her in the room, tell her you need to have a talk. After she sits, you stand. You walk over to her, stand up straight. Clench your fists, and in your loudest and most violent voice possible, explain to her why she should not be ****ing poking her nose in **** that isn't her business. When she tries to speak or talk back, you lift up one of your fists and tell her to shut up. You continue to give her the verbal thrashing of a lifetime. Explain to her how the only place to snoop or even think about being, is the kitchen. If she isn't snooping in the dishwasher for an unclean dish. Or looking for something to dust, then she should be sitting quietly in a corner. If she disagrees with any of this, you tell her to shut up again. That her opinion doesn't count because she is simply a woman. After you finish your yelling, you permit her a chance to speak and say something in a very low voice, so to not upset your own ears. The only acceptable response is "Yes sir, I will do better next time". Everything should be ok after that. Make sure during your rant, you go into detail about how there are like 2 billion women on this planet that are hotter than her. If she can't accept that, then she should lose weight or maybe fix herself up more.
I don't think you owe her a damn thing personally. I would have been mad she read the entire chat transcript and didn't trust you (assuming your trust was solid before this happened). She seems really insecure to me if this gets her all up in arms.
Tell her to chill. You didn't do anything. You're in a relationship, not dead with your balls cut off, of course you're going to check out other girls. She's dumb if she thinks otherwise. Even if I was dating the hottest chick on the planet, I'd still check out other girls, we're guys, what do you expect.
This advice actually isn't that bad. It's the old, "I'm married, not dead" type of thing. You're a guy, and you'll probably be checking out other girls until the day you die. It's in our nature. However, you must reiterate the fact to her that you are solely committed to her and would not want to initiate or act on any serious advances from other women because you value your relationship too much. 1 part explaining your point of view + 1 part reassuring her and relieving her insecurities = Hot make-up sex.
Seriously though, I'm sure she does the exact same thing with her friends. Tell her to cut the bull**** and stop playing the victim. She checks out guys just like you check out girls. Tell her to get the hell on with that ****.
Her overreaction is a sign that she's tired of the relationship and will eventually cheat on you. Sounds to me like she's laying the groundwork to get out...and making you the bad guy.
"Hey Playa, Look at the Right hand. You see that . .its a get out of ANY DOGHOUSE card!! It works forreal!!" Sincerely, Rocket River
And after you're done looking at the right hand, look at the right titty... What the hell is up with that? Eeew.
Seriously. I look at other women around my wife all the time. It's kind of a joke between us, actually. She would probably worry about me if I didn't. But she's confident enough in herself to know that I ain't going anywhere. Like I tell her all the time....why would I go out for burgers when I can have steak at home? Any woman that has a problem with her man occasionally talking about other women with his buddies most likely has serious self-esteem issues from childhood...and that usually equates to her being a real BORE in the sack anyway, so what's the point?
At 29, she's on her last leg. If you aren't committed, and your text indicates to her that you are not, she's screwed. That's why she's upset.
