So my best friend's co-worker and I went out on a date a few months back. Nothing really materialized, it was more of a friend thing. For some reason lately I haven't been able to stop thinking about her and after having a dream about her the other night I'm fed up. (I don't dream about crushes terribly often) Making a move on her is bad for numerous reasons: 1) I'm fairly certain she only thinks of me as a friend 2) She's extremely high maintenance 3) She's Catholic and I'm not (this is a requirement for her I think) 4) Our personalities mesh well as friends but certainly wouldn't as a relationship I'm almost certain For all these reasons and a couple more I'm actually kind of pissed at myself for liking her. My plan is to basically make a move on her and fail so I can pretty much get over it. Being prepared to be rejected would still allow me to stay friends but would allow me to just stop thinking about her, cause my ego would never allow me to like someone who rejected me directly. I mean, I like the girl and have had dreams about her so obviously there's a part of me who'd like it to succeed...but I know long term and possibly even short term that embarrassing myself is a more likely and ideal scenario. I think I will employ the aid of alcohol in this quest for rejection. ...unless anyone has any ideas for getting over a crush other than that...and I'm well aware of the option of sleeping with random women so that's out.
This probably doesn't help at all, but: Catholic girls give the best head in existance. Dirty birds, they are.
In all seriousness though, if you're actually dreaming about her you better make your move. You are looking too far into it thinking that your personalities wouldn't mesh in a relationship. Who cares at this point?
She's a sweet girl and a friend. I'm not looking to **** her. She's "waiting" anyway. It's not even looking too far into it...it would be a trainwreck from day 1. I must be one of those people who want something because they know it's bad and/or they can't have it. I really didn't think I was like that though.
Been in that situation. I made my move, never really got a real answer, yes or no. We just started hanging out more and more. I didn't want to push it, we got closer and closer so I thought we were working into something, I mean we were talking everyday, going to dinner, movies, bars, meeting each other's families, etc. One night when things were about to finally get physical between us she ended up saying, "We are just friends, you know that right?". I was CRUSHED. CRUSHED, I say!!!! So yeah, find out exactly what she wants from you, if anything and move on.
What is this, a movie? An idea for a sitcom episode? Just get over it, no need for an elaborate plan.
Sounds like a personal issue that you just need to get over. You have established that: 1) You don't believe things would work out long-term. 2) You don't want to just **** her/hook up with her short-term. What's the point then? Even is she says, "Yes", it would be pointless because you already settled on the above two points. Just sack up and figure out a way to get over it.
I don't even know what I want out of the situation. I mean the plan is to get over it by basically closing the door on the whole thing quickly and clearly. My best friend and I went over the success odds. He placed it at about 35% chance of success. My guess was 2.5% chance.
Send her naked pics of you, if were going to talk percentages... I give you 100% success rate. Or stalk her, girls find that sexy and cool!!
My shrink has assigned this very topic to me for "homework". "Go get rejected, and tell me how it feels"
If you really like someone then you can get over differences but if you already feel like you guys are gonna have problems then its pointless. I wouldn't read to much into you're wet dreams.
Well, there is your first step: Define. Figure out and define what you actually do want, then try to move toward that. Right now you just seem confused about your feelings. Sort those out first, then take action.
I see one major flaw with your plan. If you want to still be friends with her your plan to get rejected by acting like a drunken a-hole might end up ruining any chance for friendship.
