Getting back with an ex

Don't do it dude, move on and find somebody else. It wont end well.

 

Bitter mode: She wants a nice/safe/broken-in guy to balance out the self-shame she's carrying from whatever wild cocks she had been gobbling.

Bright side mode: She's learned her ways and you can have an honest discussion on what does "going back to the way it was" mean.

Options?

Tell her no, and ghost her asap

Tell her no, but have friends with benefits. (will not end well if you cave because that's the first play that will come to her mind)

Tell her no, burn it in your mind to not be committed, but stay as platonic friends 99% of the time. (moral support for the both of you, but understand she's in her cheating self destructive phase of her life)

Say yes, lose all your leverage and your prime years living in a relationship with her in the drivers seat and your trust in her whatever she does, while you both go through big changes in your lives.

 

NSFW

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Just talking? Or is that a euphemism for other uses of lips?

 

You can do it but as a side piece only. You need a cast iron heart.

 

3 questions for OP

1. How long were you together the first time?
2. How old are the two of you?
3. Do you want her back?

 

In my thirties, I got back together with an ex-girlfriend. We were together for two years before splitting up for about six months. It was similar to the OP's situation in that she said she didn't realize what she had etc. We ended up dragging it out for another three or four years before finally making a very painful but inevitable separation.

The mistake on my part was that I wasn't really able to be honest about how I felt about her and about the relationship. Looking back, I think I stopped truly loving her pretty early in our relationship, even before the first breakup. But I allowed things to continue because I didn't allow myself to escape the familiar trappings and I couldn't face the idea of her absence.

So, my piece of friendly advice is to stop wondering whether she truly wants to return to you. That's actually not the important question.

Instead, like other posters have advised, ask yourself how you feel about her and whether being with her is what you truly want. It's may be a hard and slippery question to answer, but it's likely where you need to start.

 

Depends on the maturity level of both people. If you and the other person can move past the reasons you split in the first place AND the fact that they and you have been plowing other people, it can work.

 

This.

Establish ownership.

Dominate her every thought and emotion.

Sexually use her and pass her around to your friends and coworkers.

Train her to develop a bad heroin addiction.

When she fully submits dump her for the cute and responsible girl that works in the bakery at Whole Foods.

 

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Don't do it, if it didn't work out the 1st time it won't work out the 2nd time.

 

Don't do it. The guy more than likely hit it and didn't want a long term relationship with her. Now she is running to you to pick up the pieces. At the moment she wants your comfort but as soon as another guy gives her the tingles.... she will do it again.

 

You always want what you cant have.....once you get it back you realize why it didn't work out in the first place

 

only if shes giving great blowjobs

 

One time I was dating this single mom, and for mother's day I was going to wake her up with some oral sex.

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However, I couldn't get her mouth to stay open while she was sleeping.

DD