Very interesting story. Sounds like this woman needs serious help. And she should definitely not be married in her state. Sucks for your friend.
Time to distance yourself You have done his Friendly duty now it is time to move on . . . . Rocket River Talk to him one more time . .. and let it go
Sounds like he got Doug Christie'd. Your friend's wife is nuts, and they were his. Time to pour one for the homies. RIP
This sounds like one of those situations where all you can do is sit back and say "well, I warned you you poor son of a b****." I wouldn't have gone against my friend's wishes as far as what he was comfortable with and what he wasn't though as far as his bachelor's party. If he was in open defiance of the fiance's orders, great, go. If he really didn't want something in that line, it seems pretty easy/worthwhile to respect that.
I think your account is naturally biased; because this marriage will invariably change the relationship with your friend. For all this woman's incompatibilities, this guy may very well have chosen her as a way of evolving out of his social circle: beyond golf outings and professional networking, adult male friendships are basically worthless. Statistically speaking, contemporary, western marriage is still a bit of a coin toss: no one knows how the two interact in private, no one knows how their relationship will grow as kids or other life experiences enter the picture; so I'm just not sure how much credible, objective advice outside acquaintances with presumably no marriage experience of their own can give.
Sort of scanned it, but your friend's already with her for a long time. He wants to marry her. Surely he must be happy for one reason or another, right? Or is there some other factors involved? Also, how does she treat him? She obviously has self-confidence issues, especially with her looks. But does that really matter? I mean, as long as she doesn't stab every good-looking woman your friend looks at, I don't see why it's a big deal. In the end, is your friend happy? If he is, you should just bless them. You may decide to spend less time with them because you can't stand her. And you personally don't have to put up with her. But I think it wouldn't hurt to go out of your way to accept her.
I can't believe I read the whole thing. It was like reading an entire season of Heroes. Build up, build up, build up, build up, nothing. What a let down.
I think your friend might be right about the lack of support. Unappreciative, I don't know about, that sounds weird. But, as best man your job is to support, and I can believe he wasn't getting enough of it. I had a best man when I got married that ended up being pretty useless and it bothered me. I also agree with pouhe. And, I'll point out that since he's married and you're not, you'll probably see less and less of him. Then, when he has kids, you'll almost never see him. That just seems to be the way it happens with friendships.
Say your piece and then let it fall where it may. If you don't mind losing that friendship (and like others say... it'll likely happen anyway with marriage/kids) then tell him and hope he realizes it before they have any kids.
Why don't you stay quiet, unless he brings it up. It would be nice to let him begin his marriage without the drama/stress of having a fight with his best friend. If he brings it up, you can say you are sorry he feels you did not support him. Tell him you thought you had done everything you could. Also, let him know you will be there for him, without saying I told you so, if things go bad. But if he doesn't bring it up, I wouldn't. Starting a new marriage is stressful enough, and it seems like he has a rough road ahead of him.
i read your whole story.... 1) how old are you guys?? you sound 22-24. 2) you should've spoke up to him sooner but it's too late now. just lay low and be there for him 3) sounds like a girl that one of my friend's used to date that lived in sugarland....does her name start with "N?" and is her family not orig from texas?
