For those that have been divorced or know someone who has....

Just leave me two DMB songs on the jukebox. And I'll only play them while you're gone.

 

ha. pretty sure DMB has never graced our speakers.

 

It's funny you use grace in that sentence (named used in a few songs, name of his daughter).

 

Ya... you guys should text eachother this stuff.. lol

 

I think people make a lot of excuses instead of sticking it through and are not willing to commit. Unless there is some kind of physical abuse, I see no good reason to break if off particularly if you have kids. You give yourself a stigma and embarrass your family name as well.

 

Catholic?

 

i'm 33 and still single - but was very close to getting married 2 times. the pressure within religious communities is overwhelming... like if you aren't married by 30 you are a menace to society. it's like all the married people out there want the rest of us miserable like them...

i've seen soooo much divorce here in utah due to people getting married at such a young age. people change dramatically between 18 and 30. and that's when most (first) marriages happen.

from what i've observed, people 'wake up' after popping out a few kids and realize the person they married (or the idea of the person they married) is no longer there - either because they themselves have changed or the person they're with has changed.

it's sad to see divorce so often, but it has made me feel fortunate that i didn't take the plunge with the girls i was close to tying the knot with - it could've happened to me very easily.

 

live in misery because you're afraid what someone else will think? you can have that life.

 

Don't get married in the first place then. Marriage counseling is not used enough.

 

I know people who are divorced with kids. I can't imagine not seeing my kids every day.

And worse than that... how hard is it some other dude gets to put your kids to bed, or some other chick for the ladies out there.

 

The first Mrs. B-Bob decided to convert to Judaism. Pretty suddenly.

B-Bob: "that's cool. You go."

She: "No, B-Bob must also convert."

B-Bob: "I'll like wear a beanie a couple of times a year and light candles and stuff, but that's as far as I go."

She: "Divorce."

She went like whole hog and started a kind-of orthodox family, etc. You go, girl. We didn't have kids or any property, so there were really no hard feelings.

Thank God (or Yahweh?) it went down like that, because I found the real Mrs. B-Bob-4-life later down life's winding road.

 

IMMATURITY.

 

Ever been married?

No?

Good, your opinion means Dick.

 

if i were to get married (or divorced per the topic of this thread), it would be on my own terms not because society said i should. i don't need to follow the life script of get married, buy a house, have kids. i think that's what's wrong with marriage in the first place. a lot of people do it because, well, "that's just what you do when you grow up." no thought is put into future planning or how major decisions can affect you both positively and negatively.

 

so many in my circle of friends here in ny got married in their 30s. most had chosen to get their "careers" on before entertaining the family thing. don't know if this is any better but only a few of them have divorced. i tend to guess it's a case by case basis. i don't think there is a perfect time to get hitched.

 

Yeah, I was too young the first time for sure (20's). I never should have gotten married in that case, but was heavily pressured.

 

One thing I'll say is nobody should judge someone else for getting divorced. Bottom line is you weren't there, and the people that were did what they thought was right.

 

Postponing marriage until your mid-30's FTW.

I wasn't mature enough to have a pet in my 20's, much less a wife and kids.

 

Asian?

This is the sad reality, particularly for Asians -- stay in an unhappy marriage, or 'lose face' and separate.

 

it was never in my thought process when i was in my 20s, i was too "busy." i was 33 when i got married. can't say we don't have our ups and downs but 11 years and three kids later, we're still hanging in there.