Any tongue may have been too much in this case :grin: But seriously, cokebabies, what kind of kiss was it? Just a kiss or you made out? Some people kiss like it's shaking hands, so it may not have meant much for her to do it. Have you asked your friend if the girl said anything about your date?
- She is 27 and not some college kid. The trains are pretty safe in the Bay Area. - She told me to take her to the subway station because she had to get home. It wasn't my idea. I told her I would drive her home if she didn't feel comfortable getting home on the train. But she said she was fine taking the train. In retrospect, that was women speak for, "Drive me home or else no second date!" Perhaps she thought that you weren't that into her (or vice versa) so she just took the train home and never returned your calls/texts. That or she went and banged her ex-b/f. - Gas money totally was not an issue. I can't believe you guys brought that up. Dinner and drinks were way more expensive than that (yes I paid). Why would I care about $5 in gas? $5 for an hour and a half drive.... do you own a scooter? - I didn't drive her home because I was also kinda sleepy (the drive back would not have been easy alone) and I had to pee. Should have just told her you were tired (from work, etc). - I ended up going home (near the train station) and after I took a piss, I called her to see if she was still at the station so I could pick her up and give her a ride (I felt bad about not driving her) but she had caught an earlier train and left already. Did you really feel bad? I thought you didn't take her because of her setting expectations too high?
After careful consideration, the correct answer was to invite her in for a nitecap. You missed your opportunity, bro. She probably made a booty call to some hard prick wanker when she got home who satisified her in ways you never could. She's laughing at you right now, bro.
I am going to sum this up, simply. With no headaches. People are different. Women are different, just as I assume not all men are the same. Some women will throw a fit, if you don't celebrate your 25 day anniversary. Other women will not care at all, if you don't call for 20 days, and have spend most of those nights in a strip club and ratty motels. I wouldn't have minded that at all, because I think taking someone to my house on the first date . . . might send the wrong message to that person and I wouldn't feel comfortable inviting a perfect stranger to my house. That's just the way I feel about myself, as other people can do whatever they please. It's a perspective thing. It's a toss-up. She could be the sensitive type, or maybe she wasn't all that interested to begin with and didn't want to hurt your feelings in your face. I'd say move on for now, because women (and ... some men, don't pretend that they aren't) can be fickle and sensitive. When it comes to people, like that, it depends on how much like them. If not very much, move on. If slightly, plan on moving on at some point soon. If alot, good luck on that runaway boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse.
I think you made the right decision. If you would have brought her home, you might have wrecked your bike, hurt both of you, your wife would have found out, your boss would have found out, and you would have gotten fired. It's not worth all of that just to not hurt the girl's feelings.
After reading this thread, she sounds like a certain nameless family oriented ethnicity... She just saved you from some insanity.
Somewhere in the interwebs is a forum where the girls on the other sides of these stories are asking "Why didn't he drive me home? Doesn't he like me?"
I say no mistake. You did what felt right in the situation so don't look back. Always make the women chase you.
