I don't know, he could have been apologetic about the fact that it was delayed...but more in the "I'm sorry that happened to you" kind of apology. Not admitting to anything. Don't admit to anything!* the upper hand, jerry! *(unless it's just really, really egregious...then come on, don't be a douche).
If the OP had taken the time (and gas) to drive the girl home and written about it, I bet he'd get the same amount of flak he's getting now.
I couldn't even imagine leaving her alone at midnight for an hour long train ride. I'd have felt slighted if she declined a ride (ride ride tee hee), but if there were no sparks might have accepted that quickly - after having made the offer -- hoping she said no. Not so if I liked her. Afraid of setting the standard too high on date 1? By driving her home? Seems more of a common courtesy thing. RMT -- you need to stop finding your women at streetcorners
I still open the car door for my wife. I enjoy doing it. It takes like 5 extra seconds and means the world to her. She also reaches across and opens the other door slightly for me.
I don't know why people are asking if I saw a future with her. It was our FIRST date! Yes, I saw a second and third date but people saying that I missed out on my potential soul mate are going a bit overboard. I guess different people have different expectations for first dates. I try not to set the bar too high too early because that has burned me in the past (you do something once for someone, they expect it every time). - She is 27 and not some college kid. The trains are pretty safe in the Bay Area. - She told me to take her to the subway station because she had to get home. It wasn't my idea. I told her I would drive her home if she didn't feel comfortable getting home on the train. But she said she was fine taking the train. In retrospect, that was women speak for, "Drive me home or else no second date!" - Gas money totally was not an issue. I can't believe you guys brought that up. Dinner and drinks were way more expensive than that (yes I paid). Why would I care about $5 in gas? - I didn't drive her home because I was also kinda sleepy (the drive back would not have been easy alone) and I had to pee. - We didn't meet closer to her place because I had no idea she lived so far beforehand, and I live in the city and she lives out in the burbs with nothing to do. - I ended up going home (near the train station) and after I took a piss, I called her to see if she was still at the station so I could pick her up and give her a ride (I felt bad about not driving her) but she had caught an earlier train and left already.
You should probably have killed her and dumped her body in a sewer! Don't let a hoe get paid off a **** swap. My advice would be to go on a new c*** hunt. I went out on a date with a chick from OKcupid once. Her profile pic was myspace'd to the fullest. b**** was like 5 foot 2 and packing major junkage in the trunkage. Freddie Jackson'd my ass. She was a total brown-bagger and must be legally dead drunk to ride this ride. But I showed up and I guess I didn't want to be a total douche and just leave her hanging there, so I thought maybe I'll just friend-zone her and she'll lead me to a trail of hotter chicks. This is extremely flawed thinking, uggos never hang out with hot chicks, evolution forbids it. Over the course of our conversation she told me something that was an immediate deal breaker. "I don't eat anything liquid" "Wait... like, nothing with liquid in it?" "Yeah, the thought of eating like a soup or a stew or anything swimming in any sort of liquid substance is just disgusting to me" WTF? You don't admit something that weird on the first date. Ever. Especially when you look like you do. I still tried to **** her but I ended up getting way too drunk off Dr. Pepper and Captain Spiced so she just went home.
So apparently you can kiss on the first date, but yet not take time to drive someone home. But really.. Kissing on the first date? ...What is the world coming to
FB attitude towards men and sex is definitely not the norm. Then again, a female regularly posting on a rockets board, isn't normal either.
wait...what???? Unless you're dating your teacher I had this all wrong. You're older then 25 aren't you? 1) RR's advice is spot on. Invite her to your place . 2) What's with the whiny thread on clutchfans? Damn...
Well then, she's probably just not that into you (like the movie, except with a she). Tell your friend next time to find you someone closer.
The BART is safe? LOL.. cue Asian vs Black on San Francisco Bus/BART videos. cue Black male being shot by cops at BART station video.
WHOA. Quotable post is quotable. I wonder what you edited out that you felt you needed to remove. :grin:
she's a 27 year old average looking chick who lives with her parents? You made a good decision ditching her.
You didn't think this would be an issue prior to the first date? If it hadn't been a problem that night, then it wouldve been the next one or the one after. On a first date, you need to be prepared for anything. Ending it prematurely, sleeping over, taking her home, kiss, no kiss , etc. You should have done your homework, if you didnt know she lived that far. Either you were into her or not. If you werent, then she did you a favor. If you were, then you should have taken her home. It would have extended the date and made her feel better about you. She probably went home, called up her gfs to talk about the date, like they all do, and when she got to the part about the train ride home, her gfs threw out the yellow flag and penalized you. Game over.
Exactly. However, I would have still driven her home as long as she wasn't a snatch. Its just the nice thing to do. I would have done the same thing for one of my boys also if they asked.
