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[Fat Girl]Double Date Hell... PLEASE HELP!

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Franchise2001, Apr 25, 2008.

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  1. ScriboErgoSum

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    One of my favorite Charles Barkley quotes: "You can drink 'em pretty, but you can't drink 'em thin"
     
  2. Major Malcontent

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    See...you probably don't mean to make assumptions. But you are, you assume that someone who is fat is lazy, sometimes it is true...sometimes it isn't.

    I assume that someone who is into 4 workouts a week, lots of flexing and admires his own abs, does so because he has not yet found a boyfriend who has abs he can admire...but I might be wrong too.
     
  3. krnxsnoopy

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    Wow you're hating on him because he's in shape?


    No kidding when people say fat people are bitter :rolleyes:
     
  4. Refman

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    I think he is trying to make the point that people who make assumptions like that are being short-sighted.

    On that point, he is very correct.

    If one makes the assumption that because somebody is overweight they are lazy, then they are judging somebody without knowing all the facts.

    In the last year, I have gained about 20 pounds. I started my own business, and started working long hours, often 7 days a week. My workout time is what was sacrificed first. I am not lazy. I am just working so damned hard at my actual job that something had to give. Once the business gets to where I want it to be, I have the rest of my life to get back into shape.
     
  5. mateo

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    Hysterical.
     
  6. Major Malcontent

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    The thing is I am the first to admit I am one of the lazy fat people.

    I don't care that much about my build.

    But not all fat people are like me. And not all skinny or even built people are that way because of rigorous discipline.
     
  7. Franchise2001

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    Genetics have a lot to do with your ability to reach that body fat %. You have to be single digit body fat % to have that ripped abs effect. For most people to reach that level, they have to drink 100 Fl oz. of water a day, intake tons of protein, do lots of cardio, eat healthy 95% of the time, and rarely drink alcohol.

    Personally, I'm happy right around 13-16% body fat (Yes I have a trainer that uses calipers every now and then...). I work out 4-5 days a week, do 20 min of cardio along with interval and fat burn on most of the days. I like to drink at least once a week, but eat very healthy. To reach the <10% fat, Id have to cut out the drinking and eat flawlessly, which is impossible considering I work my a** off. I've also done some serious circuit training which dropped me down pretty low, but it just wasnt fun.

    Given that, I'm a firm believer in the equal matching principal. I prefer a girl that knows the importance of good health. To answer the other thread, its NOT ok to be fat/obese. I did not know my grandfathers because they chose to not take care of themselves.
     
  8. Isabel

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    Good point here. My children are not going to have a grandfather on their mother's side. Although there are other factors, he was pretty overweight and that didn't help. You can be obese at a young age with few health consequences, but that changes as you get older. I used to wonder why you didn't see many fat old people, and thought, "well, you must lose the weight anyway when you get to be that age." No - it's because they don't live to be old. :(
     
  9. Franchise2001

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    I'm sorry for your loss. My dad had a heart attack when he was 40 because he worked 7 days a week and liked to eat barbeque chicken pizza regularly. Luckily, he survived (at least 25% of his heart is dead tissue) and changed his lifestyle. Most guys don't know that blood clots begin forming between the ages of 25-30. Simply taking a baby aspirin in the morning.

    At first I regretted making this thread... it was pretty childish on my part, but wanted some quick advice. If one person gets healthier or more aware of the importance of good health, then I'm glad it happened.

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  10. Franchise3

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    I agree 100%. There is nothing wrong with having a little extra weight on, but let's not act like it's shallow not to want to date someone who is a big, sweaty pile of lard. According to BMI charts, at 250 she would fall into at least the obese range (note: this is higher than the "overweight" range of weights) unless she was over 6'4", and chances are she would fall into the extremely obese range (which puts her at an extremely high risk for health problems).

    When did it become such a bad thing to not want to compromise your standards just because some girls can't get enough of the Mickey D's dollar menu?
     
  11. Shroopy2

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    First, yeah I'm a male and I'm single....
    Not that long ago I was in prime physical condition. Not so much anymore though...I've pack on some poundage. I have noticed just recently I havent quiiiiiiite gotten the little invites and requests to events, social functions, parties and such.... :confused:

    Hey, I'd like to be a Shallow Hal sometimes but I've been placed more at "Fat Girl" type status it seems. And I dont think I've changed much as a person....In my eyes its another double standard to boost the (over-exaggerated) sensitive self esteem of women, so they can have their same options plus more. And limit the guy's standards. THATS the part of it that I dont favor.

    Women still want their Mr Rights, Knights in shining armors, and Prince Charming. Then when Prince Charming comes along they want to influence him to take an obese peasant girl as his princess. They want to guide him toward the "inner beauty" and make him feel he's getting something of worth back. Well maybe he would, but LET him get HIS choice in. If he finds a slimmer woman more attractive in is his eyes, thats just the breaks

    Its a group of women probably some overweight, who've weaved their influence to make it just devestatingly OFFENSIVE to admit liking skinnier women. Men have actually been open to these suggestions for a while. Hell men are even getting girlier. What have women done in appreciation - NOTHING. They've gotten b****ier, fatter, and lazier. And kept the passive-aggressive influence going. Why? Because they want some of what their hot friends are getting and wont settle for less THEMSELVES.
     
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    I believe in that, too. I even want to believe that "fat" shouldnt even be that offensive. "Fat" is a worse offense than sexism and racism if you go by how people respond but if a person's overweight they should kind of know to themselves. So it shouldnt be that big a deal to begin with. But then being "skinny" shouldnt be some big elitist acheivement either - you're just whatever weight you are, and from that weight you get whatever comes with it.

    But its not that way cuz a lot of people regardless of weight or class want more than what they're expected to get and wont settle for less. Big ugly men if they have big money can attract hot skinny women. But big women get the raw end cuz big ugly men still want the model quality women, so unfortunatley their prospects look hopeless. THATS the group that speaks out the most on this.

    A third of those women can increase their chances just by losing a few pounds. There's no cosmetic surgery to make a guys wallet bigger though.
     
  13. StupidMoniker

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    Sure there is, they just have to be holding the scalpel.
     
  14. AroundTheWorld

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    Clever!
     
  15. Lady_Di

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    Sometimes it's good to give a person a chance if they're ugly or fat in your eyes...

    When I met my bf, he was 250 and 5' 9", that is "obese" for his height. I liked him because he had a great personality. I had to push him to eat healthy and work out because he wasn't eating healthy and working out before he met me. Now, he's down to 230 and lowered body fat. He is not blessed with the skinny gene since his parents are heavy. Only member in his family that is not heavy is his brother. He wants to look like one of the body builders. :rolleyes: He's eating healthy and working out all the times. I'm proud of him.

    I'm only 133 and 5 6 tall. I never dated big guys like him before and I always dated skinny or average guys but hey, you gotta give someone who you wouldn't normally date a chance. :)
     
  16. JumpMan

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    It's not as bad of a stigma for a lady to be with a big dude, plus, you asked him to lose weight. ;)

    I've always wondered if girls had a problem with my weight, other end of the spectrum though, 5-11, 135-140.
     
  17. Champ Caliber

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    We're in the same boat, 6'2, 160-165. I get the occasional "what can he do for me" or "he can't handle all this" line but what does my slight frame have to do with the pipe.

    Most dudes won't even try to go thru pushing a woman to lose weight. We all know the "don't you love me for who I am" line is coming. Unless they put on the weight after they got together.
     
  18. EssTooKayTD

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    That's what ugly people say.
    I keeeed.
     
  19. Carlos Nice

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    this thread was worthless...almost 100 posts and no one posted pictures of their significant other, which about 80% of them are probably fat...

    my internets cheated me today...
     
  20. JumpMan

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    I always figured that if they did have a problem with my weight, it was more of a security issue than a sexual one. :confused:
     

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