Thanks for your long winded responses. Who cares if I'm a clinger or not? Well the guys I date, obviously. I've had my share of clingy guys. I remember one time, there was this guy who would send me texts like crazy when I didn't reply to his texts, not getting the idea that I didn't want to talk. So two choices I have - 1) tell him what's up and he would either be with me or run away 2)wait and see. is it only me but does dating feels like a game of chess?
This is absolutely true. I've liked guys who weren't that GOOD LOOKING but they had a hell of confidence. Confidence is what attracts women.
Ask finalsbound (among many others, apparently) about Kevin James (Hitch, King of Queens). Chris Farley used to get tons of women and the former singer from the Cars is married to a supermodel.
I'll even say this is correct. I went out tonight with a guy who I thought was dorky. And yet we spoke for a half-hour and he came across confident as hell, even though he was bald. Confidence is a must. Which is surprising for me, because my confidence is sporadic, honestly. (but only y'all know)
I agree with this, although being good looking doesn't hurt. Not handsome, but just easy on the eyes. Confidence and money can do wonders. I have a good friend who's on the wrong side of 50, divorced, and looks a bit like Hoss Cartwright from Bonanza. The guy attracts women much younger than he is like a magnet. I go out with him sometimes, since he recently moved back to Austin, just for kicks (my wife is a good friend of his, as well, and knows I'm just having fun), and it is uncanny. The guy simply exudes confidence. And he has money. At least, he exudes money, lol, whether he's flush, or not. His finances go up and down with the market, or if some stock options have come due. His confidence and personality play a big role in how he earns his living. And his women. Certainly not his looks. Anyway, it's a trip to watch.
I seriously doubt finalsbound is attracted to Kevin James for his money. I actually know quite a few women who find guys like James attractive because he is funny. Speaking of relationship stuff, the Chron had an interesting story about a study done on daters. Study confirms: Women are choosier, men go for looks By RANDOLPH E. SCHMID Associated Press WASHINGTON — Science is confirming what most women know: When given the choice for a mate, men go for good looks. And guys won't be surprised to learn that women are much choosier about partners than they are. "Just because people say they're looking for a particular set of characteristics in a mate, someone like themselves, doesn't mean that is what they'll end up choosing," Peter M. Todd, of the cognitive science program at Indiana University, Bloomington, said in a telephone interview. Researchers led by Todd report in today's edition of Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences that their study found humans were similar to most other mammals, "following Darwin's principle of choosy females and competitive males, even if humans say something different." Their study involved 26 men and 20 women in Munich, Germany. Participants ranged in age from 26 to their early 40s and took part in "speed dating," short meetings of three to seven minutes in which people chat, then move on to meet another dater. Afterward, participants check off the people they'd like to meet again, and dates can be arranged between pairs who select one another. Speed dating let researchers look at a lot of mate choices in a short time, Todd said. In the study, participants were asked before the session to fill out a questionnaire about what they were looking for in a mate, listing such categories as wealth and status, family commitment, physical appearance, healthiness and attractiveness. After the session, the researchers compared what the participants said they were looking for with the people they actually chose to ask for another date. Men's choices did not reflect their stated preferences, the researchers concluded. Instead, men appeared to base their decisions mostly on the women's physical attractiveness. The men also appeared to be much less choosy. Men tended to select nearly every woman above a certain minimum attractiveness threshold, Todd said. Women's actual choices, like men's, did not reflect their stated preferences, but they made more discriminating choices, the researchers found. The scientists said women were aware of the importance of their own attractiveness to men, and adjusted their expectations to select the more desirable guys. "Women made offers to men who had overall qualities that were on a par with the women's self-rated attractiveness. They didn't greatly overshoot their attractiveness," Todd said, "because part of the goal for women is to choose men who would stay with them" But, he added, "they didn't go lower. They knew what they could get and aimed for that level." So, it turns out, the women's attractiveness influenced the choices of the men and the women.
Bingo. And a gold digger is a woman I wouldn't want to have anything to do with, no matter how much money I had.
