I guess i can easily put myself out of that category. I've talked to him every single day ever since we first met. <3
2 months is early in the relationship, but I think about right to start having these types of "relationship clarifying" talks. I think it's a good time. I dont know about other guys, but at 2 months I pretty much know if I want to get more serious with a girl.
If you are on a sports bulletin board asking advice from men on how to deal with an issue with your boyfriend because you can't possibly know what he is thinking, why in the hell would you ever assume that we know what you are thinking???
What!?!?! Dude that sh*t might be the case in highschool. But 2 months is still considered unexclusive dating. That talk shouldn't come up untill about the 6 month mark.
hmm, i probably should wait another month to be on the safe side but sometimes when you have strong feelings for a person, you just can't wait any longer!!
6 months from the moment you have your first date is about right. Some circumstances are different. In these cases the two parties have known each other for some time either thru college, friends, or (god forbid) work. Than the time table shortens.
That depends HIGHLY on the relationship. The longest and best relationship of my life was exclusive within a few weeks and we were living together within 3 or 4 months. You can't put a single time table on every relationship because everyone is different.
Wow, not saying you are wrong, but that is crazy. So you can be dating someone for half a year who might not have any interest in dating you long term? That could be such a waste of time. If you aren't interested in being exclusive, shoudln't you have the responsbility to tell that person earlier rather than later? Also, I dont think any of the girls I dated would have been cool with me dating other people at the 5 month mark!
My ex and I had two classes during our last semester. I tried my damndest to get her to notice me. Long story short, semester ends, I leave for argentina, I make international drunk call professing my love, this endears me to her, I get back and 3 weeks later we're a couple. We had a three year run. But there was a history already there. A foundation if you will. With new girls you have to start anew everytime. It takes 6 months.
Totally agree. And if you are ripping each other's clothes off at the drop of a hat, that gives an additional clue.
It does not take 6 months for everyone. One of my dearest friends has been married for nearly 15 years, very happily. He and his wive met and were exclusive in less than two weeks. One of my closest female friends met her husband of many years and they were MARRIED within 6 months. Neither of these two had ever known the other prior to their first date. There are no absolutes when it comes to love.
There is no limits on love. =) Just kind of tricky if the other person doesn't feel the same when the person wants to be exclusive at a certain time. I waited a WHOLE year for my ex just because he wasn't ready for a relationship but I still dated other people and kept him back on the burner. Looking back to that, I don't think I would wait another year for someone ever again. Love makes you to do crazy things.
Since my divorce (I was married 9 years and am still close with my ex, thankfully) almost three years ago, I've dated probably half a dozen people, some that worked out and others that didn't and they've run the range from very intense and short lived, to stable and more long term. One thing is for sure, the more honest I was, the easier the relationship.
how can you be still close to your ex? my ex cut me off when i ended things with him. =/ i would have liked to be friends with him.
I think it depends on the person. I have noticed when I dump a girl, they want to stay in contact. But when they break up with me, they don't want to stay in touch. It's like, you broke up with me, shouldnt I be the one that is upset? Although, I am talking again to one of those girls now. I like to stay in touch with everyone.
We are very good friends and I'm friends with her husband as well. In fact, they live only about 10 blocks from me and we take care of each others' pets when we go out of town. It doesn't work for everyone. Our relationship slowly ended over a period of about a year and it was painful. But, we tried to be really mature about it. We had one attorney divvy up everything - never fought about anything during the divorce. We talked alot about how we felt and we agreed that remaining friends was very important to both of us. Since that has happened, I've met quite a few people who have managed similar friendships after the end of long relationships. I know it isn't the norm, but I'm really thankful we have what we do. It's actually a bonus because we know each other probably better than virtually anyone and we're pretty damn honest, so whenever either of us needs advice, we each make a good ear for the other.
Seriously, you dumped him. What did you expect? My ex dumped me and I didn't communicate with her for 6 months. When I did it was via email informing her that I would be in Austin and could drop her things off. Haven't communicated with her since. Wait... I did email her the leaked Harry Potter pages and outlined the deaths of the all characters. She really liked reading that crap. jajajajaja!!!!!! Edit: She replied back with "you evil little monkey motherf*cker!
