How do I let the girl I'm dating off the hook without hurting her feelings (that much)? It was a down summer for me emotionally and physically, so I hopped on OKcupid again and got a couple of replies. The girl that stood out the most was a little bigger (well eh, she is big) than I would have liked, but I was so down on myself that I loved the attention when she would reply to my long messages with long messages in turn etc. I wouldn't say hormones got the best of me in th decision to go out with her anyway, but rather the attention she gave me. Constant back and forth texts after dates and before also, but now things are starting to enter the point of no return with the dating. I realize it was a mistake now to lead her on (we've been on two dates, with a 3rd date this tues....which is what I'm trying to figure out what to do) and want to end it. I haven't told her we're in a relationship, but she likely believes we are. As cliched as it is, she does have a great personality and listens as well as a nice rack... but she's overweight and more overweight than I'm willing to deal with long-term. Now that I'm back in school, I see so many amazing girls that it's just like... who am I kidding with the current one I'm dating? Do I try and turn this into a "it's not you, it's me" thing? How to best approach the "I really am breaking up with you because of your weight" deal?
Just tell her that you're not ready to commit to something long term, and you have a busy schedule as it is with the semester just starting back up... then run for the hills. If she's fat, she won't catch you.
Hypothetically speaking, if she's fat she's used to being rejected. So just start one of the stock break up speeches and she'll probably stop you before you get to the end.
Get one of your friends to have sex with her. Even more effective when your friend is a homosexual female as well.
I'll take the risk. Although an addendum to the hot girls on campus deal that line should have read "Now that I'm back in school, I see so many amazing girls that it's just like... who am I kidding with the current one I'm dating? I say that trying not to sound arrogant... but I just simply realize that if I'd start chatting up attractive girls in the first place that I wouldn't have to settle for less."
Also, if you have not done so already, seek oral sex from this woman prior to breaking up. Certainly, every man must experience fellatio from a plus sized woman at least once in life.
Well, the next date we were actually going to have sex... but I feel like that would just deepen things further. I have a conscience, but not all the time... lol
<iframe width="420" height="345" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/U8TnhNxKNlU" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> You are a SHALLOW mother trucker. Spoiler AND, we need pictures of the rack, please. No, but seriously... tell her you'll take her to the GYM and NOT to Mickey D's. Watch her start to look HOT to you as she loses the weight. Don't lie, emmeffer, you like fatty hotties. Spoiler I'm not kiddin' about those pictures, though .
Did you want her as a girlfriend in the first place? If you were feeling down, then you should have reached for her as a friend. I would tell her you want to be just friends, even best friends since she seemed to have helped you out. If you just dump her she will feel down emotionally and physically just like you did, and why would you do that to her. Sorry, I've been on both sides of this situation.
Just talk to her and tell her you're just not feeling it. It has only been two dates, not a long term commitment by any means. I had a similar experience...took her to IHOP and just told her I tried but just didn't feel any chemistry.
Make her break up with you. Start being a jerk for no reason. She'll get tired soon enough and feel empowered that she was able to get away from you before she made a big "mistake".
