Damn, I just spent an hour filling out that questionnaire and I don't have a match either. I didn't get the same message as you, but it shows that I have 0 matches. This stuff is depressing. Of the thousands of women on this site, there's not a single one who is even a slight match. Thanks for ruining my day Hmm.
After I got divorced, I tried eHarmony and Match.com. They both sucked. It was the total middle-of-the-road, boring everyday on there. If you were even mildly different, matches just weren't possible. I did make one good friend on eHarmony. We both thought the service sucked. It paired us and we had no spark, but we've remained friends. Other than that, they all sucked. I had much better luck meeting people either in person or through shared things like music, photography, etc.
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Oh, I know you are.. I've read your posts on music.. This was probably it.. if what Jeff says is true. Which is unfortunate, as I have had difficulty finding someone a bit more worthwhile the old fashioned way, and was hoping for better results with a supposedly reputable and well recommended site.
Well.. I am an agnostic, and filled out the questionnaire as such. Good god.. swoly.. No one on this board annoys me quite as you do with your posts.. For the people suggesting I leave a profile up in her computer.. whether jokingly or not.. I have no profile. I was denied service. It's clearly stated in the OP. Back to swoly, and other people who have hinted at this.. I'm not afraid to dump her.. It's not as if she's making my life a living hell, or behaving frustratingly and doing insufferable things. It's not that I need to dump her, yet I fear hurting her feelings.. It's just that it took three girls before this one (the one I'm currently with) to get to someone that I didn't find so incredibly average or certifiable. And someone that could at the very least.. meet me half way on every important level. This one is more like.. 1/4th of the way, to be frank. Not to mention I don't like the mundane dating scene and all of it's little trivial and dull routine and rituals. I simply can't stand it. I loathe bars and night clubs. I don't like girls that smoke or drink more than a few times a year, which you'd be likely to run into searching in such places. I'm not just not entirely satisfied with the girl. But there's no rush to dump her. I'm sure she'll break it off on her own sooner or later. She'll inevitably see through me, discover my true intentions/feelings..if she hasn't already. I simply want someone that I can actually love sincerely. That captivates me and who touches me in ways beyond the physical usual. Someone I connect with intimately. It's something I haven't done/experienced/felt in a long time. I still haven't been able to completely forget a certain girl.. whom I did experience all this with and more.. that's all I'm going to say about her. But as I said in another thread.. It's been 2 girls, non-casual/steady/lasting.. and then the number of girls "screened" inbetween.. since her, and it's all the same with "her" visiting my thoughts here and there. And no I don't go around comparing women to "her" thus leading to my disappointment. I don't think about "her" all day or for even most part of the day. I tried eHarmony to see if it's recommended/acclaimed, purportedly vast resources and world wide reach.. could help me find someone really special.. that could.. maybe.. if possible.. along the way.. make me forget all about that girl. Hopefully I explained this better than I think I did.
Hey, that's what I am here for. Your last post is FULL OF IRONy it has magnetized my LCD monitor. "Hey, guys! I hate eHarmony... it didn't let me cheat on my current girlfriend, so I've decided it sucks! "
If you try one, eharmony is the best. Great guy to girl ratio. Question for hmm, did eharmony ask if you are in a relationship? Eharmony said they reject people who are married, maybe they do the same for people who have girlfriends/boyfriends.
Man up and dump her...There is no sense in stringing her along just so you don't look like the bad guy...There are plenty of other women out there and even though you may be afraid of being alone, why treat someone like that... Sincerely,
Yes it did. But it didn't have a "in a relationship" option. Just.. Married.. Divorced.. Single. Obviously with only those options available.. I answered, "Single."
It's not as if I'm mistreating the girl.. And considering her flakey-ness and free-spirited nature.. I seriously doubt it'll hurt her too much to find out I wasn't completely sincere and serious about our relationship.
If you've both agreed that you're in an "open" relationship you're not mistreating her. If you're pretending to be in an exclusive relationship while looking for another girlfriend, you're mistreating her.
I'm with you SwoLy. Hmm, you need to nut it up and tell her that it's not going to work out. Stop trying to be 'kind' to her by effin her over.
There seems to be a slight misunderstanding here.. I wasn't going to look for a girlfriend while still being with this girl, let alone cheat.. I was going to eHarmony to see if it would prove to be as good as advertised, in successfully finding a woman that's perfect for you according to a thorough, precise and "complex" profiling system, with a world wide influx of members and potential selection. If it had proved to be accurate to it's reputation.. I would've ended my current relationship before doing any actual "searching"..
I would leave out the response about the goat and peanut butter next time. Sometimes the truth should be left well alone.
Not the way eHarmony is structered.. You see a standard homepage.. your only viewing option after that.. is log in or the questionnaire. It would be like calling me looking a bar over, thinking "maybe" and nothing more.."searching". Even though I didn't step a foot inside let alone evaluate any women..
It took me almost a week to get a few matches. But once they started coming, I started getting 3 or 4 a day.
you looking a bar over isn't going to hurt anyone else's feelings. if you got an open relationship, then cool, but if you don't, you should just let her know u ain't happy and either try to fix it or leave it.
I'm not sure what we have.. I don't think she does either.. Is an open relationship strictly catogorized by promiscuity.. and freedom to see other people.. devoid of emotional intimacy? As far as I can tell.. neither of us have been involved with any other people since we've been together.. But we aren't very intimately close.. other than her off and on displays of affection and infatuation.
