Do You Prefer to Hangout with People of Your Own Race / Ethnicity?

You should e-mail him this thread and tell him that you started it.

http://bbs.clutchfans.com/showthread.php?t=189148

 

I haven't gone through the thread, so I'm sure something to this effect has been said already, but...

I hang out with people I share personality similarities with. Often, that is my fellow white people. However, that doesn't mean I prefer to hang out with people that are white, just that white people tend to have personality traits that I get along with (probably because I am white). I am friends of all sorts of ethnicities, though. In fact, my fiancé is asian.

I'm not going to go hang out with hip hop people though, whether they're white, black, asian, or whatever, just because I am not a hip hop style person. Race has nothing to do with it, it's just that certain races have certain personality traits, I think.

 

I'm not white, but I hang out with a lot of white people. Jews too. It's my curly hair, it makes them think I'm one of them.

Is it racist to say I wish I had more black friends?

 

I only really have one other Arabic friend, the rest of my friends are white, hispanic, black, asian, foreign, domestic, lol I like that about living in Austin

 

what's your objection?

 

Well, I live in Kingwood, so it goes without saying that I mostly hang out with Tasmanian Aborigines.

 

lol

 

I would definitely say "class" if this includes educational or intellectual background. I would certainly rather hang around with an interesting/intellectual/progressive black, hispanic, asian, white than a close minded white guy or gal like myself.

Money is not that important as in this day and age a lot of intelligent and or educated folks don't necessary make a lot of money.

I will admit that if someone is a Rush Limbaugh type they better be a good person to have a beer with or I won't be associating with them. They must be very high on the conviviality scale.

 

I avoid every race equally.

 

What's your objection to e-mailing this to all your Muslim 'bros?

 

I have friends from a lot of races and backgrounds, but I choose my company moreso by likemindedness in culture, values, interests... as I'm sure many people do, which always lends to being friends with more people of your own race/ethnicity I think.

 

As far as friends I think it mainly depends on your neighborhood because those are the people you grow up with.

As far as dating though it's different.

 

Answering directly, I do NOT hang out much with people of my own race Its all about whoever has common interests. Its whoever likes me, I'll like them back. If you dont like me, I'll still try to like you back and turn the other cheek. You're going to be the closeminded one, not me.

That said, I think "open mindedness" can be a little overrated. For instance, young kids who know what they want to be in life by age 10. They get praised for having direction and a good head on their shoulders when they say "I want to be a FIREMAN!". In some liberal circles you can say that kid is too "narrow minded" because they're not getting enough "exposure" in other areas.

Its like decisiveness is the cousin of ignorance. Is there anything really wrong in saying I'ma straight caucasian male who wants to have a straight caucasian wife? Even with the explosion of interracial dating, people tend to ultimately marry within their own or the most closely matched culture. If everyone is getting the same opportunities in life, whats that really matter? As long as you don't criticize, fight or bomb someone that breaks away from convention, who cares really. People will still find stuff like credit scores and SATs and physical beauty to differentiate themselves with anyway.

 

who said i had an objection?

 

His objection is that he doesn't have any Muslim bros or brahs.

 

I prefer to hang out with people who are not douche bags. Douche bags can come in any shape, race, culture, or ethnicity.

 

I can relate to your story. Similar upbringing as far as income and I was definitely the minority in middle and high school. I actually had a huge and disturbing culture shock when I went to college and was suddenly in an ~80% white (and mostly wealthy) environment. I did not enjoy my time there.

As an adult I mostly associate by intelligence as far as preferences go. Race doesn't factor at all...other than perhaps preferring not to be around too many white people.

For dating and marriage I always said I didn't care and went across the board...but I think the odds were always pretty high that I would not have married a white woman. I don't know if that is because of my early environment so was more used to non-white or if it was a result of my college experience of feeling a little "other" in a white environment and thus wanted to move away from my own whiteness, or a combination of both.

I guess the short answer is that I generally don't care but if I do have a bit of an aversion to too many white people.

Oh hell, I have an aversion to too many people in general.

 

Well growing up in a mostly caucasian school as a Chinese kid, made me "whitewashed" as some would call it because in most of my life my friends have been 90% white...It's not cause I'm racist but I've just never fit in with kids my own race cause I tend to be the bipolar opposite of what they are. Also in my experience, people of my race(Asian) tend to judge you more harshly than other people do and enjoy bragging about everything and comparing you to them. Even though most cultures are like that, I just find that it's more harsh in my culture compared to others...

 

As a kid I spent time in Sharpstown.
Then I spent my middle to high school years in Sugar Land.
Then I lived in Salvador, Bahia, Brazil.
Now I bounce between Phoenix and Utah.

So the stages have been Black/White, Indian/White, Afro-Brazilian, White/Mexican. Despite a bit of culture shock I've never really noticed a difference inside of people. Lifelong friends, and stupid pretentious troublemakers come in all colors.

I can understand why people feel comfortable hanging out with members of their own race; like anything else, I imagine it does take a bit of effort to overcome if you're just not used to branching out.

To the dude who posted this:

I disagree only because I think it depends on upbringing. If a kid is brought up in an area of one predominant color (be it black, white, yellow), he'll naturally form irrational but real opinions about the races he has had less contact with. I hope to raise my own kid(s) in an area where I can avoid that.