Let's get back to this. Why is it their business only and why can't people in general call them out for their double standard that they have in essence created by recycling that word for another type of meaning? So is this really a moot point as you are trying to convey? I think you are trying to convey "It's not really my business on how they use that word amongst themselves", apologies if not.
Could be either a societal defense mechanism or just as much of an insult. Maybe a middle-class or immigrant (parents) thing, but I would never call either of my brothers one - though we went after each other with steak knives - or used it in front of our parents. And especially not in front of any caucasian acquaintances (classmates, co-workers). It could also be part of our broader role in Western society as surrogates for crappy/rebellious behavior.
And it should be paid out to anyone that was a slave, by anyone that owned a slave. Reparations...GTFO !! DD
If I said its ok for blacks to use a racial slur against a people who have been historically discriminated against, while its not ok for whites to use a racial slur towards blacks, then that would be a double standard because its analogous. A non-black person calling a black person a n-word is not analogous to black people calling each other that, so I don't see it as a double standard. Whether black people should use the term is an important issue, but a separate one. You and I can have opinions on it, we may think they are being "ignorant" or whatever, but what difference does it make what we think? That's an issue for them to deal with.
I have no problem with the double standard but don't me it doesn't exist. There is no word a white or Asian could be called that would have the other person lose their job in >90% of situations. This whole thread is dumb, life is not fair.
I did not get a chance to see the video, but if this beating took place OUTSIDE of the kitchen then the answer is YES she did deserve it.
That sort of "double standard" doesn't mean anything to me. Yeah, obviously in the real world you can't treat everyone exactly the same. The important thing is that you abide by certain fundamental principles/standards, and you apply those consistently to everyone. "Do not utter the n-word" is not a fundamental principle. On the other hand, don't demean others on the basis of their race being different than yours is a principle that people should abide by. In doing so, it follows that non-blacks should refrain from using the n-word. That's how I see it.
