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Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by ROXRAN, Aug 12, 2003.

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  1. ROXRAN

    ROXRAN Member

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    God! That is what bothers me so...Honestly, I can live without Roxana, but I absolutely can't without my two angels...

    When I talked to them, my oldest asked me: "why did you run away from me?" ....I literally began crying right then and there...I mustered to sound normal and told her: "I didn't run away from her and I never would"...

    I miss them so much...

    I intend to never bad-mouth Roxana in front of the children as I expect her to do the same...I would like to think of myself as full of machismo or something, but I cried so much lately because I know they are missing me and I certainly miss them. I kept thinking how they would come to me every night for me to read them stories and such little things where we would play "horsey", and I'd walk around the carpet with them on my backs,...we would laugh about anything...It's times like these that I wouldn't trade for anything...

    The money we saved, she can have it all!...I just wish to have my moments with the two to go on...
     
    #41 ROXRAN, Aug 13, 2003
  2. MoBalls

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    That sucks man..Im sorry you are going through this. Make sure you keep letting the girls know how much you love them and that its not their fault....sorry man.
     
    #42 MoBalls, Aug 13, 2003
  3. RIET

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    This is an emotional time for you. However, you need to seek legal counsel. You may not think it's important now but if you don't, you could regret it later.
     
    #43 RIET, Aug 13, 2003
  4. MoBalls

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    I totally agree here.....I went through this before and had a lawyer.....we decided to try and work things out and have been happy since...its weird, but the first thing I did was grab a lawyer....yes there were kids involved.....
     
    #44 MoBalls, Aug 13, 2003
  5. FranCat

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    First let me say, first and foremost....IGNORE MY USER NAME. I went by FranchiseCat, but Jeff/Clutch won't change me back. So now I am just a lurker, afraid to post because of such a feminine user name and low (if any) post count! With that said:

    Roxran,

    I too is going thru the same thing right now. My wife of 15 years and I just separated (about 30 days before agreed). We have 3 children, ages 13, 5 and 4. I haven't seen or talked to my kids in two weeks. In fact, I have no earthly idea where my family is and it is driving me freakin nutz. :(

    I feel you man. I have cried and cried. I wish I could offer some advice, but I feel as if someone has reached into my chest and ripped out my bleeding heart. I have slept or eaten in days.

    God help.
    :( :( :(
     
    #45 FranCat, Aug 13, 2003
  6. FranchiseBlade

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    Roxran, that's crushing! I know you have to be feeling incredibly lost and confused and a whole bunch of other things. I hope you have some good friends or family around you, or other people that can be there for support right now.

    Just do whatever you can to take care of yourself so that when you do get to see your children they get the best father possible.

    Good luck with everything.
     
    #46 FranchiseBlade, Aug 13, 2003
  7. Easy

    Easy Boban Only Fan
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    I have no advice to offer. Just let you guys know that you are in my prayers.
     
    #47 Easy, Aug 13, 2003
  8. Deckard

    Deckard Blade Runner
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    Absolutely get legal help. I've been around long enough to have unfortunately seen these things play out several times. Your reaction is typical- "I don't care about the money, I just want to see my kids... ", which is understandable. The problem is that, heaven forbid, if it comes to divorce you'll need your fair share of financial resources to help support the children, do things for them, help them go to college... the list is endless.

    I saw that you were returning to Houston. Is that wise in this situation? It gets you farther from your kids, as I understand it. It probably gets you closer to support you need, but you might want to reconsider the move. One of my best friends ex-wife recently moved herself and their 3 daughters to the Northeast. After a couple of months away from them he said, "to hell with it, I'm moving up there!", which he just did. At least think it over.

    Man, what a hell of a thing to go through. Again, good luck.
     
    #48 Deckard, Aug 13, 2003
  9. SmeggySmeg

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    MacBeth - sent you an email with the details
     
    #49 SmeggySmeg, Aug 13, 2003
  10. ROXRAN

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    UPDATE:...Things got ugly...I already consulted with a lawyer before I left and I'm glad I did...Turns out this "stranger", who I use to know used my credit cards without my knowledge for a spending sum of $2800 that she "hid" from me...I cancelled the cards (2) that were in my name...(she has nothing in her name...not even the car she drives)

    I wanted to work things out civil, and I think the problem is I'm too nice and naive...When I went there, she insisted on her being there with her Dad, as I saw the kids...This really pissed me off!, since I couldn't have the privacy I wanted or expected...I don't know if she thought I was going to take them or what...Also she claimed to not find some of my stuff! One of the last gifts my Dad ever gave me was a $1600.00 thick 18k figure 8 gold braclet for me graduating college, and she claims she cannot find it anywhere!!! :mad: ...I was so upset, but I stayed calm as I spent some time with my two daughters...I stayed strong and didn't cry, but my sister had to drive the whole way back since I was in no shape or way to drive...

    Thank you all for telling me to see a lawyer...

    I also just got a message on the recording (from the attorney)saying she had a bit of good news to discuss, I'll be meeting her again today at 2:00 p.m.
     
    #50 ROXRAN, Aug 18, 2003
  11. Rockets2K

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    F'in Harsh! :(

    Stay strong, stand up for what you deserve, and good luck.
     
    #51 Rockets2K, Aug 18, 2003
  12. no_answer

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    I'm glad you got a lawyer. I hate to see people get funked over. It sucks when things get ugly and if you want me to take this lady down I will. ;) Guys can't beat up girls but other girls can!
     
    #52 no_answer, Aug 18, 2003
  13. bnb

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    Sounds tough RoxRan. Hang in there.

    As impossible as it is...try to keep the emotions at bay. The girls need their dad.

    And to the rest of us...lets never underestimate how important our spouses/partners are. Do something nice for them today!
     
    #53 bnb, Aug 18, 2003
  14. ima_drummer2k

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    God, I hate hearing stories like this. Divorce is all over my family history. Probably why I'm still not married. Sorry, ROXRAN.

    Just remember to be the bigger person for your kids. They'll thank you for it later. Trust me.
     
    #54 ima_drummer2k, Aug 18, 2003
  15. MadMax

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    i'll be praying for you, roxran....i'm so very sorry.
     
    #55 MadMax, Aug 18, 2003
  16. Manny Ramirez

    Manny Ramirez The Music Man

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    Randy,

    I am SO sorry to not say anything to you until now.:(

    God, this sucks and I say that as someone who has met you personally and consider you a friend. **** like this should not happen to good people like yourself. I'll definitely keep you and your 2 girls in my prayers tonight and for however long it takes for this thing to get resolved. Feel free to give me a call anytime you need someone to talk to. Email me @ jfyoung@charter.net if you have misplaced my number.

    Hang in there, buddy.:(
     
    #56 Manny Ramirez, Aug 18, 2003
  17. Htownhero

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    Don't be a doormat for this woman Rox, it won't help anything. Divorce is tough on kids but it won't be the end of the world for them, don't let that guilt eat you alive.
     
    #57 Htownhero, Aug 19, 2003
  18. AroundTheWorld

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    Good luck, Roxran.
     
    #58 AroundTheWorld, Aug 19, 2003
  19. The Voice of Reason

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    ROXRAN I sent you an e-mail, hope it makes sense.
     
    #59 The Voice of Reason, Aug 19, 2003
  20. Samurai Jack

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    Sorry to hear it's getting ugly, just keep your chin up and remember the only thing that matters here are the girls.

    Jack
     
    #60 Samurai Jack, Aug 19, 2003
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