[DATING] Where would you pick up the most single girls?

Hotel bars, especially the hotels near airports


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my CF brothers, i will share my life wisdom with you:

a high probability place to pick up single girls is at a bar on a monday-wednesday night (after the happy hour rush). women who go out to bars on those nights, generally are looking to be picked up, which is why they are in a bar on those nights. plus, most people don't go drinking on those nights so the competition level is low and the bar scene is more private and intimate.

thursdays-saturdays are low probability plays because they might be having girls night out and don't want to be bothered. even if they want to be picked up, you are competing with 100 other cocks in the room so get in line.

sunday is a bad bar day because people have to work the next day and are recovering from the weekend.

having a wingman helps because women usually travel in pairs (but if they are alone, you are set because that means she is extra lonely or slutty).

*Warning*: Most women that you pick up at bars probably won't end up being wife material in case that is what you are looking for.

 

Austin, TX.

 

At a Rockets game.

 

Anywhere.. :grin:

 

A few people suggested church and I wanted to interject that this doesn't always work well.

Lots of people meet their future spouses at church and it is a great atmosphere for that in a lot of ways. And you know you are more likely to be on the same page about religious issues and have mutual friends who can be supportive of your relationship.

But there are a lot of reasons why I don't recommend going to church to find someone to date.

First of all, going to church with the primary objective of meeting someone means you make your church decisions based on things like the size of the church (you want lots of candidates), how active the singles community is, what the age/cultural profile is of the members, etc. Generally these are not the questions you should be asking when you choose a church. In case you are wondering I think those should be whether you agree enough with the theology and vision for the church, whether you can subject yourself to the churches leadership and to what extent you feel able to participate.

Secondly, the single communities within a church aren't that large and you don't want to quickly be known as "that guy who's just here to pick up chicks."

Third, once you do go out with someone it can be rather awkward if things don't work out. What if you actually like the church and start to have other friends there? Depending on how serious the relationship became, you might feel one of you needs to find a new church.

Fourth, church meets once a week for a particular purpose. While you might have plenty of opportunity to go to lunch with a group afterwards and you can meet people during the more social coffee hour or Sunday school, not every single person is really looking for someone else at this time. It could take a couple of months before you feel comfortable enough to ask someone out in that setting.

Fifth, going to church on your own makes people assume that you are a Christian. If you aren't it's a bit of false advertising. You can clarify matters by making sure people know up front you aren't a Christian (if you aren't) but that can be a bit awkward.

Of course, in general I'm all for people going to church. Church is good for you! But I wouldn't recommend it as part of your dating strategy.

 

Amen on Pt. 3

 

I would say that getting involved in church activities is a good way to meet people if you already go to church. Generally, a lot of volunteer activities a church does involves multiple churches. You meet people with similar values and start getting invited to parties outside of church where you can meet even more people with similar values.

If you don't go to church, I would still suggest getting involved in activities that you like to develop friendships and different groups of friends. Also, I find it helps to be see around with your female friends as it is generally a sign that you aren't a jerk.