What race is the chick? If its a white chick they know the code. Over $100 and they have to put out. Same 'with Hispanics. They know the code. It gets dicey when we are talking about Asians and South Asians. These people do not know the code. With a Middle Eastern chick it takes alot longer. Sort of longer term investment required. I haven't had the opportunity to date a black chick, so I have nothing to input here.
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I don't think it is anything that I said or did during the third date. I would admit if I did something stupid. Her body language on the third date was not as friendly as the previous dates from the start but I would not have guessed that I would get shafted with a hug. I met her on a dating site and my guess is that between dates #2 and #3, she met other guys that she was interested in and either wanted to slow things down so she could play the field more or lost interest in me but wanted to milk that last date. I had a bad feeling when she didn't offer to pick up the tickets to the show that SHE suggested we see. And for the record, she is Asian/Pacific Islander and not super hot. In fact, I honestly think I was the hotter one.
On a dating site...not good. Did not offer to pick up the tix that YOU paid for ... not good. Follow advice ^above^ this post... GREAT IDEA!!
i guess that's possible...makes sense for her to go to the show if it's already scheduled, especially if she wanted to see it, even though she found another potential match. Just take it a lesson learned and take it easier next time. I dont think you ever said if you were looking for something serious or just some action, but if its something serious you should spend more time in more casual settings at first. If it's action you want, well you're literally gambling at that point. Sometimes you lose money and sometimes it pays off.
I guess I was looking for both? I don't think they are mutually exclusive. If I just wanted booty, I would hit up bars and look for drunk girls right? I guess the lesson learned is to pick every idea and venue for dates because I am the one paying. Don't give the woman any say in where you are going to eat, drink, or hang out.
Well my point is, if you want a serious girlfriend, then i'd assume you want to actually get to know her first and make sure she's right...so you have a perfect excuse/reason to start off with simpler dates, since it's not about impressing her, but trying to get to know her. If she's on the same page she should understand. Yes, eventually you'd want to get some as well, but i think you have to assume it's going to take longer, possibly a lot longer, to get it if you approach it as a serious thing, rather than a fling. It doesnt have to take long, but i think that should be the expectation, otherwise you'll become so frustrated with not scoring yet that you'll try to force it and give up on her completely, if you don't get it soon after forcing it. Personally, i dont date to get laid because i dont want to bother with dates, expenses, and possible drama...so i'd opt for the one nightstand approach in that situation....most of the time though i've looked for something serious and using the "simpler" approach, on average, we usually end up having sex around a month into it. It's not going to break any records, but within a relationship i'll take that every time. Why did you decide to use a dating service? You'd think you'd get better matching results that way, but sometimes it's better to be old fashioned. On a dating site you're one of many to those women and right off the bat they're looking to cross you out in hopes of narrowing down their choices. Plus, its better to see her upfront to get an idea of how she is instead of hoping she describes herself accurately on a site.
Of all my serious relationships, I ended up sleeping with my date within the first two dates. I know this is not that common (but also not that uncommon) and perhaps my perspective has been skewed by my relationship history. On the other hand, I think a HUG on a third date is pretty sad, especially after making out the first two dates. I actually dislike online dating. I know it is a low probability play and my hit rate is like 50X better in real life but I'm on my laptop a lot these days because I'm job searching so I figure I might as well throw a line out there in the online dating pool and see what happens.
