oh, ok...so I don't "get anything" by having sex with someone I'm attracted to? really? sex is just for guys? mmk
Hispanic?... maybe if you're younger, but 99% of the time, a first date to mcdonald's or whataburger will get you nowhere, not a hand job or a second date... HOwever, I see nothing wrong with taking someone to a museum, park, etc. to be different and yes, cheap...you have to find out if you click b/f you start spending the money...there's always a price to pay and you'll pay for it one way or another...
BTW, any guy who pays for dinner (or anything on a date) and expects certain things in reparation is a slimeball in my opinion. I'd be legitimately insulted if a woman got that impression from me.
exactly, take $15, go to a national park, walk a trail, have a picnic. if you click, you're out $15 and got some action. if you don't click, you're out $15. big deal.
I've been with my girlfriend for four years, but back when I was 'dating' I'd never let a woman pay for anything. If the dating turned into a long term relationship (more than, say, four months), and if I was tight on cash, I'd let that slide sometimes. A token dinner here or there, only if she offered. Of course, I've never typically done $100-200 dates. It's usually been dinner, drinks and/or live music. Or maybe a play, but I never have to pay for those. And the places I (and my dates) have generally preferred to frequent weren't particularly expensive. Rudyards or The Harp were typical date spots for me. Most of my relationships didn't come from dating though - they usually started either as friendships or late night hookups. As far as picking up the tab, I'm pretty much the same way with friends. I've never had a lot of money, but I always offer to pay. And they usually take me up on it. My current (and forever) girlfriend and I moved in together the first night we met and we've had a joint bank account since about a month after that, so it doesn't matter who pays. All the money comes from the same place.
What if she's morbidly obese and can't walk. Let's say she's in a scooter or power chair of some sort, then you have to pay double for food and possibly an extra table at the restaurant. I think she's obligated to give it up.
I agree, many people do think that way...but if you're around strangers you can probably brush of what they think. If you're around family or friends, then it can be embarassing. Personally, i would never take her money for the first few dates (3 or 4), but if she keeps insisting and i know it's bothering her, then i'd let her pay for the least "embarassing" transaction, or the cheaper option. At least while we're dating because if we get married she can be my sugar momma :grin:
my standards are just a notch above yours i guess. i require that my girl can at least fit into my car before i ask her out.
What if the guy only likes to dine at nice, expensive restaurants? Are you still open to continually paying 50-60 bucks a meal for yourself? When I go out with a girl, I dont take them to Cafe Express, Boston Market, or Taco Cabana...I prefer eating at a place where its 20-40 dollars for an entree...plus some nice appetizers and drinks. The cost will be at least 50 dollars a person, on average.
