This and I've never played the "at least offer" game. Most girls may make a token attempt at first but not after that. If you are being downgraded to a hug on the 3rd date, you need to just move on because the chick is taking you for a ride.
To be honest a guy's got to pay until he get's entrenched with a girl. Like living together. Unless you don't like her "like that" anymore. Then, it's a sure way to get in the friend zone.
Kiss, Kiss, ****?.....I'll continue to pay. Kiss, Kiss, HUG?....Date 4 I'll suggest something expensive and purposely forget my wallet.
This. If you asked her out, you should pay. If it's one of those wishy-washy semi-dates where it's not really a full-blown date but the two of you mutually decided to go eat, THEN maybe you could expect them to pay their part. And judging the status of how things are going with a woman based on if they offer to pay or not seems pretty stupid to me. It should be based more on how well the two of you actually enjoy going out together after a couple of dates and if there's any real potential there. But, what do I know...
better yet, blow her ass off for a while because she obviously thinks you're a free ticket out of her house for the night.
And is it just me or is it messed up that I got downgraded from making out to getting a lameass HUG? I think it was jacked up like going from cable modem to dial-up. Don't you think I should at least have gotten a pity kiss and then the girl could tell me later that she's busy/not interested?
LOL! Yeah, that's how it works. Either it's his money, your money, or frequently "the family money." In our case, it's "family money," but I usually pay, wanting to appear to be the gentleman. Besides, it's what we're used to. The only time my SO pays is when it's pouring rain outside, there is no umbrella, and I get hit with, "I'll get this, honey! Why don't you drive the car to the front door?" (sigh)
Yeah I dont get that...although, she may have thought her breath was nasty, so she avoided it. Eat anything that may have caused that? Garlic, onions, etc... Some girls are definitely very conscious of that, so that may have been a reason.
Talk about throwing a drowning man a life preserver. Good grief, you'll have him giving this chick another shot!
Correct. You make them pay. Hell, by the time you're done with them...they should be begging to pay -- not only for the meal, but for your time.
So why not take her to a fast food place for first date then you'll find out if she's really into you? Money saved!
the first 3 times me and the wife went out she paid all three times this was 14 years ago these days i pay for everything moral to the story you're going to pay sooner or later but seriously, a woman who considers herself a woman should be more gender conscious and definitely conscious about the economy
I don't let men pay for me, on any date anywhere over the course of a relationship, because I don't want any implications of certain kinds of obligations..... I could never be in a relationship where there was an uneven balance of financial responsibility. Unless, of course, one person was in dire straits financially, then the other person should shoulder most of the burden, just for generosity's sake.
