[Dating/Relationships] - Casual Dating and the "Boyfriend Muscle"

Might be that people become comfortable around one another.

 

The article reminds me of "That Awkward Moment" movie.

 

I don't have time to read the piece right now but will try to read it when I get some more time later.

I think your premise is right and being good at being a boyfriend, the same applies as a girlfriend, is something that takes practice. Like other muscles though it is easier to maintain continued fitness than to try to suddenly get into shape after getting completely out of shape. In the case of dating for single people it might be better to cultivate the qualities and habits of being a good partner even while single than try to suddenly change because you're in a relationship.

 

I'de like to read the counter article, i'm much better and being a boyfriend than picking up chicks...

 

Many women do not demand that men be good boyfriends, so many men see no point in going outside their comfort zone. If you are banging regularly, doing what you want and she doesn't expect more...... that is what happens.


Oh anf Megan Manfull, this isn't an invitation to tell us what you expect in a relationship. Getting your butthole bleached doesn't mean you get to go all BIGTEXXX and control his thoughts and emotions.

 

The counter article?

Your girlfriend is lucky, you get married.... have good credit, a nice home and family and die at 85.... no one wants to read that.

 

People are self centered. I think with people obsessing over themselves, they lose the ability to be partners. People care more about their life and want everything. It makes it impossible for many to be in a relationship and sacrifice a part of themselves. People want their cake and to eat it. People don't want commitment because of this.

 

I disagree with the article. At first it describes me to a tee (and most "millennials')... that's how I am with 99% of women, sure. But that's because they aren't special. The rare times I find one worth investing my time in it's easy to go all-in. It isn't a muscle. It comes naturally. And it's a journey you take together, the burden isn't all on you.

Sounds like an angle of someone trying to force a real relationship rather than finding the right person and letting things fall into place organically.

 

Sometimes it seems like girls are always attracted to guys who already have a girlfriend for one reason or another even without knowing he's taken. Girls can almost sense when a guy has been single for a long time and works as repellent. Like this guy can't keep a girl around, stay away from him.

 

Boyfriend Handle

 

It's more about what you're looking for in a "relationship" than what you do while you're in it, as a "relationship" means different things to different people. You're looking at the symptoms, not the cause.

 

Oh, also, the writing was good. I didn't want to click away from the page or get bored at any point.